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I am a teenager. My mom is the vice principal of my school. Everyone in the school hates me. Teachers, sweepers everyone. They constantly scold me and my friends. I cant take this anymore. Should I change my school or what. I am also an ugly, fat, pig
Why not get really down on yourself while you are at it !
My opinion is that you should not be in the same school where your mom is the vice principal. Very bad call on that one. Can you talk to her about your problem and maybe get her to change your school?
A stronger personality would probably turn this to advantage, but you don't seem to be that one.
For one you seem to hate yourself, so why shouldn't they, even though they are stupid ignorant little kids. Why be like THEM?
The good news you seem to ignore
You have friends who don't hate you, and you are NOT alone.Quote:
They constantly scold me and my friends
It sounds like you hate yourself. This will make you think others do. Have you talked to your mom about your feelings?
I am 14. I want to leave my school because everyone there hates me. But I cant make my mind up as I am so affectionate with my friends. I love my friends a lot . I have been going to that school for 4 years. But everyone there hates me expect my group of friends. I am starting to feel that my friends are also being hated because of me. I hate hurting my friends and moreover I don't want more hatred. I even tried to commit suicide as I was so hurt from something that my teacher once said. I don't get it why they hate me? What have I done? I don't want to cause any more pain for my teachers because of me. Should I change my school and go away to a boarding school. There are problems I face in my house too. Should I stay or leave?
I already did.
What did she say?
Actually, you sound like you are coping very well for a fourteen year old in this predicament. You are articulate and express your feelings very well here. That is good !
What did your mom say ?
What are you and your friends being scolded for? Do people have reason to scold you? Are you making good choices? You say that you are fat... has your doctor voiced any concerns about your weight? Do you know what an average range of weight would be for your height? If you truly are overweight, what have you done to make a change? What goes on that makes you think people hate you? What did your teacher say that made you so upset? Do you think that it could be possible that you look for proof that people don't like you, so if someone isn't automatically friendly towards you, you believe that they must hate you? As has been asked, what does your mother say about all of it?
A lot of questions, I know, but it can help us know more of what has been going on, and maybe help you to look at some things differently.
No, I am not an overweight. I am quite normal for my age. But I just always get the feel that I am ugly and fat. I used to be overweight but during my last vacations I managed to reduce it. Me and my friends are being scolded for talking in class and things like that but everyone does it. They just notice me as I am vice principals daughter. When my mom scolds them they scold me to pay back. I am very sensitive. Maybe I am getting the wrong idea about people hating me but I cant take it anymore. I am a topper in class so even the slightest scolding hurts me. My mom she just laughs in my face and says she has enough going on in her mind . I cant ask help to any body else.
You are getting scolded for breaking the rules, sorry, that is what teachers do, You need to understand that people in charge do this. If you change schools, it will continue anyway, and not help
I want a change and start fresh. Will that help?
You are young. As you mature you will learn that running from your problems is not an option. Making a new start isn't about changing a place, but changing a behavior.Quote:
Originally Posted by miathermophils
You already know some things you can change that can improve your situation without having to do something as drastic as changing schools.
Since you know that you are not fat, stop calling yourself a fat pig. Start being kind to yourself, which is even more important when you feel that other people are being unkind. You know that you shouldn't be talking in class, so stop doing it, or at least don't be surprised or get upset if you do and then get scolded for it. It doesn't matter if other people don't get caught. You are in charge of you.
There may be times when more is expected of you because your mother is the vice principal, or some may find fault when they are upset with her. Unfortunately, some people may be like that, so expect it to happen sometimes. If you truly did something wrong, own up to it, and learn from it.
Some people are naturally more sensitive than others. It can be a good quality when you are helping others, so try to put your focus in something like that. Since you are good with your studies, maybe see if you can help a student who isn't. Ask about starting a program where older students work with younger ones who are having trouble in reading or math. It will help others and you'll feel better about yourself too.
Not easy to do, but try to not take things to heart as much. It takes some time, but you can learn to let some things go so they don't bother you, and learn to be more assertive in times that you should.
Thanks for your advice. It really means a lot to me. There are problems I face at home like my sister having eating disorder. I feel like my parents always care about my sister and I rarely get noticed. I feel like having no one to talk to. Then I also wonder if I am in a bad company. I am not a boys person. But my friends like it a lot. I am afraid of hurting my friends if I ask them to stop it. How can I improve my situation?
You are much too young to be caught up in everybody else's personal mess, Miss Sensitive. You are lost in it, but have no control over it. So its not YOUR situation, but everybody else's that has you confused and helpless to change. It's overwhelming you. Step back, and let others act whack.
Start your own journal to put your own feelings down,and have a special secret place to keep them, and the rest of the time focus on YOUR behavior, and leave others to control their own. In this way you can walk away when THEY behave in ways that YOU don't like, or agree with, and you can do what you like and do agree with.
You CAN control your own behavior like this, and not just join in with what the rest of the crowd (even YOUR crowd of "friends") are doing. Then you won't take on everybody else problems, Miss Sensitive, or take their problems personally, because they aren't yours in the first place. Bet you will notice others that do this and don't follow the crowd, and you will make better more healthier friends, even if its only one person.
You are trying to fit into a crowd, instead of making your own world with you as the main person, and it's frustrating when the crowd makes no sense to you because of their behavior. You don't need a crowd of friends to be happy, one good one will do but you cannot find that one friend if you are so caught up with the crowd of friends so get that journal going, and write down everything you feel, GOOD or BAD, and start separating yourself from THE CROWD, so you can see the good people outside that crowd, and that includes family,and their personal problems too.
You just need a different view to make YOUR situation better. Do your own thing and not what everyone else is doing and that journal will help you find out what YOUR thing is.
Wow that feels good
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