Tell an ex about her current BF?
I'll try to make this short and sweet...
My ex has been in a new relationship for 5 months now. We are still friends and talk every once in a while. Not to dive too much into the history, but we both care for each other, but understand that a friendship was better for us.
Anyway... she met the guy on Plenty Of Fish, despite me telling her she should use a different method. Sorry to anyone who uses it, but PoF is the lowest of the low in my opinion, minus the obvious "adult hookup" sites.
She's pretty insecure and can be very naïve and gullible, so I couldn't help myself to investigate the guy. No jealously at all but I know she's not smart enough to do her own research. No one should be trusted at first. Currently, there are several "adult hookup" sites he has profiles on, though most of them say he hasn't "logged in" in a year or two. There are loads of nude pictures of himself and his manhood publicly available by a simple Google search of his commonly used profile name. Also, he's posted graphic pictures of sexual encounters with a few women (Luckily for them, their faces weren't in any of them). He has publicly blogged about his sexual experiences with women in the past too.
He's a self-proclaimed Sadist and into BDSM... "a dominant male". She spends time with him so I'm sure she's picked up on that stuff though. Or she's just getting caught up in honeymoon stage.
Most of the dirt on him is from a few years ago, but it still says something about his character. Do people really "change"? He could possibly be using other identities.
As a concerned friend, I'm torn whether I should even say anything. Or even how to bring it up if I wanted to. A part of me thinks she just need to figure it out on her own. She does have a daughter and the thought of a creep like that around her makes me sick.
Thoughts? Suggestions?