Ask Me Help Desk - Grieving mother

My son was in a rehab which he completed. A female worker at the rehab was texting my son after he left the rehab and was moved into a group home. While at the group home he was allowed to have a cell phone but only at certain times of the day. He was using his phone to listen to music while he was working in the kitchen and so it happened a worker there happen to be walking by as he was about to change a song and the other female worker texted him. Since he wasn't to be using the phone it was taken from him. Later that day he was told his parole office was going to be coming the following Monday he panicked and called my oldest daughter using his roommates cell phone, he told her he was going to run he did not trust what he was told. They told him he was coming only to revoke his privileges. She right away called the group home and told them to keep an extra eye on him he was going to run. He done it before years back. There was no way they did because to took everything he had there. We later found out the female worker from the rehab helped him run from the group home. Next day she drove him a little two hours back to our home town. A few days later my son died. I got his belongings and this female worker from the rehab that brought back to harms way was using my oldest daughters name and address to write my son letters. Mentioning other patients by names how they follow her around wanting her and how funny she thought it was. And she was sure my son probably heard about her reputation there and for him not to believe it. And how he should have not been a patient there he should have been a worker\tech there instead. My son had a illness. My question is, is it illegal that she used my daughters name and address to mail him letters. And does anyone feel I have the right or will be able to seek justice in the result my son is now dead because of this. Any advice or help would be ever so appreciated. God Bless

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... We later found out the female worker from the rehab helped him run from the group home. Next day she drove him a little two hours back to our home town. A few days later my son died.
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My question is, ...does anyone feel I have the right or will be able to seek justice in the result my son is now dead because of this.

It appears that she committed a crime by assisting him to run from the group home. Certainly it appears that she could be prosecuted for this crime.

What was the cause of your son's death. Did it have anything to do with his escape?

You might be able to get her fired simply by writing a letter to the people who run the rehab.

But that isn't 'justice' for his death. Chances are he was going to run anyway. He could have talked to counselors at the group home about his fears. He might have died on the way to wherever he was running, all on his own. Getting her fired might be a good thing, and it's certainly something simple and concrete that you can 'do' to feel like you are doing something. But 'justice' here is about addictions and how our society deals with them, about the way we raise our children (NOT blaming you!), about how we get young adults into jobs and careers... all of it. If I were you, I would look for grief counseling such as a group. Getting her fired will be a hollow victory. You need to feel your grief more than anything. Don't expect it to ever go away. You just learn how to find a littler spot for it in your heart so that you can keep going.

You should be able to get her fired, that is all.

Your son, should not have fun away, that was his choice. He should not have been using his phone, (even for music) that was his choice.

Sorry, while I know you want to put the blame on this women, in the end, it was your son, who made the choices.

You did not say how he died, since it does not appear to be related to his being in a center