My husband is a good man but instead of coming to me to talk about his problems he goes to my mom or my best friend. I don't understand. He knows they are going to tell me. So why doesn't he just come and talk to me. It hurts my feelings I need help

I was exactly the same at the beginning with my girl friend and this split us up. I could always talk to my mum or female friends but not my partner. Personally I was scared to talk to her, because of what she may think of me. Some men can't open up to the one thing that means more than the world to them in case it upsets them cxausing more problems. He doesn't tell you because he cares for you so much and I know you want him 2 come to you and it hurts you but you always seem 2 hurt the thing you love most. Really is a tough question to explain, you need to be him to understand. I hope this has some meaning

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Originally Posted by k1j14mom

My husband is a good man but instead of coming to me to talk about his problems he goes to my mom or my best friend. I don't understand. He knows they are going to tell me. So why doesn't he just come and talk to me. It hurts my feelings I need help

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You need to reasure him that he can trust you and that when he has issues your going to show him love and compassion your husband sounds like he is afraid of disappointing you! Sit down with him and talk about his issues show him that you care beyond his beleifs