Ask Me Help Desk - Deadbeat Dad using Alias' to avoid CS

Here's my deal!

I live in Georgia and I have 3 kids, 1 of them being 18 year's old with a disorder. She is still in HS. The other daughter is 10 year's old.

18 year's old father lives in New Jersey, somewhere, and always has excuses as to why he can't pay child support. He always says he will but never does it. I have been VERY nice about, almost foolish, about this situation, but I need help!

In summer of 2006, I finally filed child support on both of fathers. But, CS cannot find them after I have given them all the info on them. They said they cannot verify their address'. I know the 18 year father has alias' using different variations of his name and has been in jail, and so on. I have enlisted a P.I. friend of mines to help me find him so CS can move on it.

My question is this, after my P.I. friend finds them, what to do with the verified info? File child abandonment papers? Give it to CS to process, again? Or is there something else I can do? I am about to be foreclosed on my house and my credit is in the toilet.

I thought CS was here for our purposes. But, they are really dragging their feet.

Thanks in advance.

Cs only cares about collecting money to put into "the system" they are not there for you, but to do a job. Unfortunately if someone can't be found what do you do? Focus on collecting from the 10yr olds dad. The other one won't have to pay but for a few months. You will likely have to find them yourself and hire your own lawyer, unless you are receiving public assistance.

I am sorry to sound rude but 18 years latter on the one and 10 years latter to even start filing to demand support from the state is about 18 years and 10 years too late, this is something that being nice has nothing to do about it, but it merely shows that you have allowed the "babies daddy" get it over on you.

And CS will merely send letters or try to have legal service done, if this does not work there is little, they will need more than anything to know where he works, under his social security number so they can garnish his pay basically. IF he is not working and not afraid of going to jail, there is not muchanyone can do.

You will not be seeing money from this fast enough to save any creidt issue on the books right now.

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Originally Posted by Venusfly

Here's my deal!

I live in Georgia and i have 3 kids, 1 of them being 18 year's old with a disorder. She is still in HS. The other daughter is 10 year's old.

18 year's old father lives in New Jersey, somewhere, and always has excuses as to why he can't pay child support. He always says he will but never does it. I have been VERY nice about, almost foolish, about this situation, but I need help!

In summer of 2006, I finally filed child support on both of fathers. But, CS cannot find them after I have given them all the info on them. They said they cannot verify their address'. I know the 18 year father has alias' using different variations of his name and has been in jail, and so on. I have enlisted a P.I. friend of mines to help me find him so CS can move on it.

My question is this, after my P.I. friend finds them, what to do with the verified info? File child abandonment papers? Give it to CS to process, again? Or is there something else i can do? I am about to be foreclosed on my house and my credit is in the toilet.

I thought CS was here for our purposes. But, they are really dragging their feet.

Thanx in advance.

Keep records of everything and inform CS of any and all information you do find. Stick to it because it takes years! Deadbeats count on people who don't push the issue hoping it will go away. DON'T STOP FIGHTING FOR YOUR KIDS!

You can get more information on what to do by going to deadbeatdads.com
CS is there to help you, but they also get overloaded with cases and sometimes cases get transferred from person to person. Just keep on them, and be a pest if you have to.

I must disagree the state of New Jersey is vigilante about collecting child support. Every month they round up dead beat moms and dads and they stick them in prison until they pay child support.

If you get the information on where he is located from a PI then give it to CS. Don't go away, don't trust everyone else to do their job. My mom had a great time dealing with CS workers in Jersey my dad however lived in another state that refused to chase down money. Our CS worker told us a story how she flew down to North Carolina when she found out the dead beat dad was getting married and they round up all the wedding presents to pay for back support.

don't stop fighting your kids are worth it AND you will get the money.

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Originally Posted by Matt3046

focus on collecting from the 10yr olds dad. The other one wont have to pay but for a few months.

No, the father is responsible for ALL unpaid child support from the day the child was born. And once the arreage amount is determined he will be responsible for that amount until it is paid if full... no matter the age of the child. I know this from personal experience (with my daughter) and a friend of mine is 25 and he still is receiving child support from his dad because his dad was so far behind.

I do agree that you shouldn't have waited this long. But what's done is done. Once you get the information from the PI you can take it directly to child support, they will work with any information they can get (they just won't do the investigating themselves) My daughter dad was MIA for almost a year and child support said his social security number wasn't pulling up in the system, so if he was working he was using a different social... I happened to pass him driving one day, u-turned, and followed him, found out where he worked and lived, and child support took it all and served him at work.

Keep fighting for what your children are entitled to!! It's a rough road, but don't let the fathers get off so easy.

Good luck!