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Is she a wife material?

She Sleeps in the day and only wakes up in the afternoon,
Complaints about health,work and life,
Can't get a job because she is says she is overqualified,
Always knows everything and correct everyone,
Argue on every single point,
Always thinks she is so beautiful,
Made used of inside out time and again and still have an ego as big as Mars ,
Always wants to be right even when wrong,
Always blames others but never her self,
Always only wants but when she gives she will take it back,
Needs to be praised on every thing,
Hangs out till wee hours of the morning with her friends and it's only one sided,
Loves talking to other guys , but I can't let go as I love her ?

You have to ask, don't be niaive, this lady has serious issues. I know a lady with some of these traints, hasn't worked a day in her life now she has a child and doesn't look after it properly. Cut your losses and move on

An aside, this sounds like a song. I short answer is no.

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She Sleeps in the day and only wakes up in the afternoon,

Which could be a reason that she:

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Complaints about health,work and life,

Does she just complain or does she actively do anything about it? IE exercise, change diet. Change friends. Change clothes.

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Can't get a job because she is says she is overqualified,

Um... Which means that she things she should have a job that she's not qualifed for and won't lower herself to work jobs she is qualifed for.

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Always knows everything and correct everyone,

And we all love a know it all, but is she always right?

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Argue on every single point,

Which means she probably isn't always right and won't give up her vision of what is right even when she realizes that she's wrong.

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Always thinks she is so beautiful,

Is she? Most people are beautiful, but if that is the corner stone of her personality then she has some serious self-esteem/self image issues.

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Made used of inside out time and again and still have an ego as big as Mars ,

I don't understand. The ego the side of mars I do. Becareful because you'll forever be in her shadow.

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Always wants to be right even when wrong,

See above. Arrogance and lack of humility.

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Always blames others but never her self,

Again... She's can't do any wrong, and when she does it isn't her fault.

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Always only wants but when she gives she will take it back,

Yes, Selfish that's what you want in a wife. What is hers is hers and what is yours is also hers.

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Needs to be praised on every thing,

See self-esteem/self image issues.

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Hangs out till wee hours of the morning with her friends and it's only one sided,

Hence her staying asleep until the afternoon and the poor health/work/life.

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Loves talking to other guys , but I can't let go as I love her ?

The harsh reality is that love isn't enough and there is so much more. I think you found someone that is compatible with you and stuck with her because she hasn't thrown you away yet. I think you should run. Fast. I don't think she's marriage and not even dating material. You can do so much better and I believe that she's more interested in having a Yes-Man than a boyfriend/husband.

Only one question: WHY do you love her?
I'll bet you have no idea, and don't even really know what love is.
I'll bet that you have a bad case of wanting HER to love YOU, and to show it, and you won't give up until you have 'conquered' her. There are many variations on the conquering theme that go back to the cave man.

There are many situations where we can't leave until we get what we need or want. A classic example is the unloved adult child who doesn't leave home until he finally gets the love he craves. Which of course he never gets.

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Is she a wife material?

Hell NO!!

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but I can't let go as I love her ?

Enjoy the ride while it last (not too much longer) because soon your fingers will get tired of holding on and the heart and brain will agree with your feet to let go, and run like hell!

Matter of time before sanity returns.

Thank you

Thank you you gave me an very good answer really appreciate it

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An aside, this sounds like a song. I short answer is no.

Which could be a reason that she:

Does she just complain or does she actively do anything about it? IE exercise, change diet. Change friends. Change clothes.

Um... Which means that she things she should have a job that she's not qualifed for and won't lower herself to work jobs she is qualifed for.

And we all love a know it all, but is she always right?

Which means she probably isn't always right and won't give up her vision of what is right even when she realizes that she's wrong.

Is she? Most people are beautiful, but if that is the corner stone of her personality then she has some serious self-esteem/self image issues.

I don't understand. The ego the side of mars I do. Becareful because you'll forever be in her shadow.

See above. Arrogance and lack of humility.

Again... She's can't do any wrong, and when she does it isn't her fault.

Yes, Selfish that's what you want in a wife. What is hers is hers and what is yours is also hers.

See self-esteem/self image issues.

Hence her staying asleep until the afternoon and the poor health/work/life.

The harsh reality is that love isn't enough and there is so much more. I think you found someone that is compatible with you and stuck with her because she hasn't thrown you away yet. I think you should run. Fast. I don't think she's marriage and not even dating material. You can do so much better and I believe that she's more interested in having a Yes-Man than a boyfriend/husband.

There is nothing I want or control all I wanted was a happy family and she do love me but her character is horrible.
I even accepted her when she told me how manny boyfriend she had and how manny times she had sex with them even a one day boyfriend got to do her well for me that's her past and I don't blame her as she is that kind of material.
All I wanted was a happy family life with her as she is loving but when her friends are around her she changes .
I can get someone else anytime that's not the issue also only problem is she trust me so does her parents it's more like responsibility .
I can be a basterd and just walk out for good after 2 years but I still have a soft heart.

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Only one question: WHY do you love her?
I'll bet you have no idea, and don't even really know what love is.
I'll bet that you have a bad case of wanting HER to love YOU, and to show it, and you won't give up until you have 'conquered' her. There are many variations on the conquering theme that go back to the cave man.

There are many situations where we can't leave until we get what we need or want. A classic example is the unloved adult child who doesn't leave home until he finally gets the love he craves. Which of course he never gets.

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and she do love me.

She do love you?

If you want a life of misery, she's your girl. You aren't going to have a happy family with someone like this.

I just broke up today and really had to strip off her skin so there is no return well did not hurt me I think because I was just bottled up with taking the blame all the time.

WOW. Talk about turning on a dime. 'Strip off her skin -' is that a phrase used in some part of the world for being really brutal, verbally?

To be direct, wife material? I would highly doubt. Unless you want a lazy wife that does nothing but consume your resources without bringing anything to the table.

Javi

I totally agree with you. Yesterday when we broke up I ask her just for laughs sake " dear what do you want me to change " guess what she said you remain as you are and let me go leave my life like before socializing talking to guys and going out "
So I said sure and I will do the same let's not stop one another you know my guy friends and only friends I also will get back to my hobby of cars. And she said no I have to do as she wants. I was just laughing inside .
That's the end of my controlled relationship for the past 2 yrs now I can eat anything do anything sleep early and much more .

Hi joypulv its my own and you it's verbilly brutal . Well a man can take so much but there is a limit .

She is not only NOT wife material... I wouldn't even consider her girlfriend material... or even friend material. Sounds like the stereotypical Welfare Queen.

She isn't wife material for you. You may think you love her but you do not like her and do not respect her.

I know it's over but something has been bugging me , we had sex after 2 months and to my surprise her left nip was sore and her private part was very loose normally last time when we don't have sex for a week she will close up and I will feel the pain when inserting but this time it's was different, the feeling was different. Sorry guys it's just bugging me and needed to ask.

Pray like hell you didn't get her pregnant, because life as you know it will be over.

Having to live with someone like you described because you knocked her up would make a guy start having dark thoughts about rope and strong tree branches.

Why do I feel sad and when I think about how my ex treated me I feel happy that I left her.

After all this she still blames me why cant God show her that what was she doing to me was wrong ?

I also felt very sad for her parents as I promised them to take care of there daughter but I walk out saving myself I never wanted to do this .
This made me change my mind when just after I got a major heart attack she was fighting with me for stupid reasons and forced me to that point to throw her away and all this happened in the 2 weeks of my attack .
Should I message her parents or leave it and move on but I don't like the feeling