I've been dating a guy 12 years my senior. He recently got divorced. We met online he was very sweet and we met up a couple of times. He asked me to be exclusive with him and that he wanted to date me however all of a sudden he became completely withdrawn and would not reply my messages or make Any effort to see me. I got fed up and called him out on it. He promised to change siting that work was stressful. He has his own business that's fairly new and still maintains a full time job while working on start ups too. Well nothing changed at all and he went MIA after that conversation . I waited a couple of days and broke up with him via text. He begged and begged and called me not to do it. That he wants meant cannot let Me go. He said that he just needs to stay under the radar!what does that even mean? Well after that conversation it's been a day and haven't heard anything from him. Should I wait? I am 24 he is 36. I haven't seen him a month now.

Under the radar means he does not want people to know about you. So he is either dating someone else, or not really divorced and he does not want his wife to know about you.

If a man is too ashamed not to be public with you, you deserve better than that.

If you can not post his photos all over Facebook, or show up at his business for a surprise lunch, there is a problem

Sounds to me like he isn't really divorced.

He is a lying. I feel too that He is still married. Do not entertain this kind of men, do not get very close emotionally, before any thing happens, just run away from him.

First thing if he loves you he would tell you his situation and let you decide .
Second thing is this a rebound.
Dear please take your time and keep your position open do not jump into anything, time will tell you what kind of a person is he.

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Originally Posted by Richgirlwantsya

I've been dating a guy 12 years my senior. He recently got divorced. We met online he was very sweet and we met up a couple of times. He asked me to be exclusive with him and that he wanted to date me however all of a sudden he became completely withdrawn and would not reply my messages or make Any effort to see me. I got fed up and called him out on it. He promised to change siting that work was stressful. He has his own business that's fairly new and still maintains a full time job while working on start ups too. Well nothing changed at all and he went MIA after that conversation . I waited a couple of days and broke up with him via text. He begged and begged and called me not to do it. That he wants meant cannot let Me go. He said that he just needs to stay under the radar!what does that even mean? Well after that conversation it's been a day and haven't heard anything from him. Should I wait? I am 24 he is 36. I haven't seen him a month now.

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It's not wise to even be available as an option for someone. He obviously has other options and priorities before you, if you haven't heard from him in a month. Why wait for him to move you up the list? I am sure YOU have other options than him and should be exploring them, or looking for them at least, instead of being desperate for someone that is NOT as desperate as you are.

You have already wasted a month, haven't you?

Sounds like you are the back up plan, and not the main course of action... that's why he is so withdrawn... move on, find someone that actually values you.