Hey guys since my last post about the girl I like in my youth group, I have decided to tell her. So I got the chocolates I got for her packed, wrote her the letter according to the guide given to me by phoenix. Well she said no and then went home for no reason. I thought that maybe she would get over it and everything would be back to normal when I see her at church on sunday(today, 8th apr) and I don't think she has because we prepared to go movies sometime these easter holidays and we got everything sorted but when I asked her this morning she said she doesn't want to come anymore. I feel so stupid and useless because I have made her so upset... I don't know what to do to make it up to her and I can't stop crying about it. What do I do? I feel like hurting myself or just jumping into a hole and disappear from this world.

Why?

You took the risk to let her know how you feel.

She did not react the way you wanted, but you would have never known what could have been without trying.

You did your part, now step back and relax and stop freaking out.

You have not made her so upset. She made herself upset, it was her reaction not yours. You have no control over how somebody is going to react.

So what you need to do if you want any chanch in the future. What you need to do is act cool and relax. Be a gentleman no matter what. Do not react this way you reacted in the post or else she knows that she got to you.

I hope you understand what I am saying. Also now you can also learn from this experience and let it go and move on to new and better experiances in the future.

Give it some time and some space. No need of hiding. No need to disappear and no need to cry over somebody you never had in the first place.

Joe

I am not crying about the rejection itself. I am prepared to take that. But the thing is she's a very kind Sister in Christ and I love her to bits. And by doing what I did and making her so upset that she changed her mind about coming ot movies with me... I just feel so bad... If I had never written that stupid letter and asked her out like this none of this would have happened...

Oh please get a grip.

For the second time again. It was not YOU THAT UPSET HER. You can not control her reaction.

She changed her mind. Oh well, that is life. There is not any reason to feel bad.

How do you know nothing like this would have happened anyway, you do not know that. You need to pray to God and trust in God that he will help you and her in this situation but remember if you keep reacting like this and she sees that it will just show her that you are not a strong person.

Joe