Ask Me Help Desk - I give up and don't know what else to do

Hi, I am a 15 year old girl who don't know what else to do. Just like all teens I like someone that I can't have. He is 3 years older than me. He is cute and relly cool to be around. I want to have him but I know I won't be able to. I don't know what to do anymore. I see him every day and today he was at my house talking to me waiting for my bro to come home and he told me he was moving in like a month. I don't want him to move I never got a chance with him and want one. Now I feel like I want to die. I have cut myself before to get rid of all the pain and don't no what else to do. I don't want to do that again that's not something good. Well now I just feel like I want to die. When he moves I will never see him again and that makes me sad. I don't no what to do he don't no how I feel about him and I don't want to tell him and don't want a friend to cause I don't believe in that. What should I do I just feel like giving up on life and dying. And I don't want to go and talk to someone I just can't do that it wouldn't feel right. I just need to no what else to do.

-unknown-

I can pretty much guarantee that over the course of your life, there will be many different boys... and then men... that you'll be obsessed over and even maybe be "in love" with until you finally find one you are serious about.

If you feel like you are out of control and going to hurt yourself, please call a crisis line, or 911, and get help.

At this point in your life, many things are out of your control. That will change. Getting yourself through this time in your life is an important part of who you're going to be once you are at a point where your life is entirely your own. Don't deny yourself your future.

I know a great place to get answers. It's a web site call To Write Love on Her Arms.

It's a movement of love that started at my church in Orlando Florida, and has spread worldwide. Let me know if you have any questions.

I'll pray for you!

God Bless

Dear one, you feel a lot of pain of losing someone you like. You sound like someone that has been hurt before - who left you in your life that you love? Sometimes when someone leaves us it reminds us of someone we lost in the past. The pain feels overwhelming and you feel like dying. Know that it will pass. Recognize you like him and that you will find love again. You are very young and will have many experiences yet to come. You need comfort and someone that can re-assure you that all is well. There is support for you if you ask. Know that all the power of the universe is with you and helping you to get through this. You have peace at the very center of your being. Know that whatever has happened to you, you are whole and complete this very moment. Do not hurt yourself again - you are already hurt. Cutting yourself will not change that you care for him and do not want him to leave. Everyone feels hurt when someone they care for leaves. If you do not want to speak to a Therapist, is there someone - a Teacher, adult friend or relative that you can talk with? You can also call the World Ministry of Prayer at 800/421-9600, to talk over the telephone about a problem and ask for advice. Bless you.

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Originally Posted by cutter43

Hi, i am a 15 year old girl who don't know what else to do. Just like all teens i like someone that i can't have. He is 3 years older than me. He is cute and relly cool to be around. I want to have him but i know i won't be able to. I dont know what to do anymore. i see him every day and today he was at my house talking to me waiting for my bro to come home and he told me he was moving in like a month. i dont want him to move i never got a chance with him and want one. now i feel like i want to die. i have cut myself before to get rid of all the pain and dont no what else to do. i dont want to do that again thats not something good. well now i just feel like i want to die. when he moves i will never see him again and that makes me sad. i dont no what to do he dont no how i feel about him and i dont want to tell him and dont want a friend to cause i dont believe in that. what should i do i just feel like giving up on life and dieing. and i dont want to go and talk to someone i just can't do that it wouldnt feel right. i just need to no what else to do.

-unknown-

"All of us need to believe that we are loved and lovable. We began life with confidence on both points, bathed in a mother's love and swaddled in our own innocence. Love was never in question, but over time our certainty clouded. When you look at yourself today, can you still make the two statements every infant could if it had the words?

I am completely loved.
I am completely lovable.

Few people can, for looking at yourself honestly you see flaws that make you less than completely lovable and less than perfectly loved. In many ways this seems right to you, for perfect love is supposedly not of this world. Yet in a deeper sense, what you call flaws are really just the scars of hurts and wounds accumulated over a lifetime. When you look in the mirror, you think you are looking at yourself realistically, but your mirror doesn't reveal the truth that endures despite all hurt:

You were created to be completely loved and completely lovable for your whole life.

In a way it is amazing that you do not realize this, because underneath everything you think and feel, innocence is still intact. Time cannot blemish your essence, your portion of spirit. But if you lose sight of this essence, you will mistake yourself for your experiences, and there is no doubt that experience can do much to obliterate love. In an often hostile and brutal world, maintaining innocence seems impossible. Therefore, you find yourself experiencing only so much love and only so much lovability.

This can change."

Dr. Chopra

I promise you... look for the answers... you will find them!

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Originally Posted by cutter43

Hi, i am a 15 year old girl who don't know what else to do. Just like all teens i like someone that i can't have. He is 3 years older than me. He is cute and relly cool to be around. I want to have him but i know i won't be able to. I dont know what to do anymore. i see him every day and today he was at my house talking to me waiting for my bro to come home and he told me he was moving in like a month. i dont want him to move i never got a chance with him and want one. now i feel like i want to die. i have cut myself before to get rid of all the pain and dont no what else to do. i dont want to do that again thats not something good. well now i just feel like i want to die. when he moves i will never see him again and that makes me sad. i dont no what to do he dont no how i feel about him and i dont want to tell him and dont want a friend to cause i dont believe in that. what should i do i just feel like giving up on life and dieing. and i dont want to go and talk to someone i just can't do that it wouldnt feel right. i just need to no what else to do.

-unknown-

I used to self harm a lot. Everyone used to tell me that I will regret it later on. I do. I can't wear T-shirts. No guy is ever worth hurting yourself for. Trust me. Reach out, you made need to see a counsellor. I know what it feels like to be in love and have them taken away, I used to hurt myself all the time because I thought the pain would too unbearable if I didn't. It gets better through time. That's what I have learnt. I hope it helps. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm here... Marcusstorm x