Abused but wanting to get back!
So that's basically the story..
I met my boyfriend who is 24 years old in Israel. We are 3 months together and we met in Israel. He did Aliah to Israel 7 months ago to join the military and to stay and live in Israel from South Africa. After 2 months since he moved to Israel he had pain in his testicle so he went to the doctor and they found out he had testicular cancer. So he had one of his testicle removed and since that occurred he can't join the military and his dreams has been crushed.
I met him a month after the surgery through a gay application he wrote me that he wants to meet me. We were talking over the phone that he had cancer and I was really interested in meeting that guy. So basically I went to see him one day and since then we didn't separate. I met him in a very depressed time but what I didn't know is that before the cancer occurred he was a depressed person. So the first month that we met I live over his mom and dads rented house in Israel. They came to support him and to help him so they came for a month. After the first month I moved in with him my boyfriend his name is Raphael to rent an apartment in Tel -Aviv in Israel and things started from there.
The person was depressed in the beginning but I helped him get out of his bed and doing stuff. He loved me but sometimes whenever we started to argue he would get physical and I sometimes would hit him back but at some point I'd stop. He always used to put me down and sometimes really up emotionally. Now a week and a half ago I came home to the apartment from work and I came in I said to him hi and he told me to **** off. He was in a bad bad mood. One of the reasons he was in a bad mood is because the next day he had a blood test for his cancer that occurs every 3 months to see if he needs any chemotherapy, so he was nervous because of what if the results are negative? The next day he had a job interview that I organized for him in a call center which he got really excited for at the same time. So basically that night I couldn't talk to him because he was in a bad mood and so I went to sleep and he came to bed laid there next to me and out of the blue he said to me " I wish your mom & Dad gets cancer and that ISIS chop their heads off. So I stood out of bed and I started to scream at him telling him " NEVER TALK DOWN TO MY PARENTS EVER". So I slammed the door and went to the living room and after 3 sec he came to the living room telling me to come to bed and I told him to **** off so he got close to me telling me that he will do or say whatever he wants and then I told him to **** off once again.
So he took his fist and punched me ear and I was in pain. So he took my cellphone charger and he locked the apartment and took the keys because his excuse was that I have been drinking wine and that I'm drunk which is true I drank 2 cups of wine but I wasnt drunk at all. And so he took the keys and the charger and he went to our room and locked himself in. I was sitting on the couch in the living room with 10% battery on my phone writing to my friend that I think that I'm in danger and that my boyfriend got out of hand and that I don't have enough battery on my phone so she didn't listen to what I had to say and she called my parents and told them and after 6 min 5 policemen were showing up behind the door with my parents there.
So then my boyfriend for the first time in his life started crying and got nervous and then he opened the door to the policeman, And so they took him and I to the station separately and the officer asked me what happened and I told him that nothing happened and so the officer said to me that he has all the messages that I wrote to my friend and if I'm not going to tell him what has happened he will arrest me and probably put me in jail. So I cried and did not know at the time what to do and so I let everything out and told them the story. The next day they called me and said that I'm suppose to come for an investigation which will be with my boyfriend Raphael, me, and the Detective. So I got to the police station and they told me that Raphael my boyfriend slept in jail at that same night and right after I went to the inside the room for the investigation. In the investigation Raphael my boyfriend didn't confess or admit that anything happened his answers to every question were " Never did never happened". After the investigation they took him to Jerusalem into 2 days home arrest over his family friends house. After the 2 days he went back to the apartment and I stayed over my parents house till now and the police gave us a restraining order for 30 days. After couple of days I felt like I had to put out the accusations off and so I went to the police and they said that they can ask to take them off but they cant really do it because its already in the court system. And that's it.
I have been through a lot struggling with the fact that this is how our relationship ended although I would never had called the police I just shared information with my friend that night on the phone. 2 days ago I saw him pass by in Tel Aviv and I started to cry because I said to myself how did all of this happen and all I wanted to do is to go to him and say Hi although I couldn't. I called his mutual friend and he told me that Raphael my ex boyfriend saw me in Tel Aviv and that he never wants to talk to me or see me in his life. I gave up the apartment through the landlord in my side of the contract and he stayed there until the mid of the month and then he will go out and sublet rent with someone.
My question is do you think he will ever contact me again after the 30 days restraining order? I want us to be friends, just friends, I know its crazy but it hurts me every day and I can't cope with it.
Thank you
