I am 30 years old and about 12 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby anymore. He has been putting so much pressure on me to get rid of the it but I don't want to. The problem is I am not at financially capable to take care of a child on my own for now. Am so lost please someone help me!

Part of the problem is having a baby BEFORE anyone even considered getting married. Misplaced Priorities.

You can't make him want it... but you can try to make him pay for it AFTER its born... but you will be raising it for many, many years. Probibly long after he's gone.

He can't make you get an abortion unless you want to, which you clearly don't want to do. But you can't make him want it or have anything to do with it, except pay child support once you get a support order from a court. You aren't married...so you can't even get alimony for yourself. I recomend working on finding a job to support yourself. My gut tells me he's not going to be around much longer to support you. Just a feeling I have. Seen this happen too many times.

Please consult with your best friends, and family, and even your doctor, for love support and wise advice. Few of us are ready for the trials and tribulations of having a child, and I assume its your first(?).

Lets forget what he wants for a moment and the money issues aside. What do YOU want? What happens if you decided to keep this child?

I only ask to gauge the strength of this relationship. It's a life changing decision you are faced with for sure.

Go with what you feel is best for you. If you want to have the baby, then make plans for that. Whether he wants to be around or not is up to him, and it will tell you just how invested in your relationship he really is. He will have to provide some financial support regardless.

He may change his mind at some point, it happens; sometimes not until the child is born, or he may not.

Your baby will always be your baby... he may not always be your boyfriend.

Look into all of your options. Don't forget about adoption if you feel you cannot take care of the baby on your own.