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I recently moved into a condo with a roommate. Every since we moved in together, her boyfriend has been coming over & spending the night every week. Recently, we discussed some of the issues we had with living with each other. And one of my biggest issues brought to her attention is the fact that she feels that she can invite her boyfriend over & spend the night anytime. I told her because of this reason I didn't feel comfortable living there. I didn't feel as if I had any privacy. I told her that I didn't mind him visiting once a week, but staying over night is a problem; but when I'm out of town, she has the freedom to have him over whenever she wants. Since then, he came over Wednesday night & again last night & is still here this evening. From my understanding, he has a place to live. Since then, he's been here at least once a week or more staying over night I have read some of the questions & answers pertaining to roommates & some were helpful. My question is, do I have the right to tell her that I don't want him here overnight when I'm home, especially more than once a week. I don't like confrontations, but I feel I must say something. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Well in a nut shell -- it seems you have 3 people living there with 2 people paying for it. Yes you have every right to tell her that -- if she listens is a different story. -- Savage

Thanks, Savage

One of my friend's suggested charging him rent. I will speak with her as soon as he leaves, which may be sometime tomorrow.

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Originally Posted by TheSavage

well in a nut shell -- it seems you have 3 people living there with 2 people paying for it. Yes you have every right to tell her that -- if she listens is a different story. -- Savage

Hello tx:

I don't think you can tell your roommate who she can have over and when.

excon

Hi excon,

In a sense you're right. But at the same time, he shouldn't have the right to come over whenever he or she wants him to and stay overnight more than once a week. If I had known in advance that she was going to have company as much as she does, I would not have agreed to be her roommate. The reason I've submitted this question is to find out what/if something can be done if this continues.

Thanks

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Originally Posted by excon

Hello tx:

I don't think you can tell your roommate who she can have over and when.

excon

Hello again, tx:

You're right. HE has no rights. Your roommate, however, does. I understand you would not have done what you did, had you known then, what you know now. That's cool. It's still not her fault. Maybe if you had asked you would have found out. I don't know. I had a roommate once who handed me a dustpan and told me to clean the house. I didn't know that I was moving in with Mommy. But, of course, I didn't ask.

Considering this is a legal forum, my advice WAS legal - not sociological. If you can't (legally) tell her who she can have visit, then you have no legal recourse.

excon

LOL.. Hi excon,

Sorry for laughing.

I figured as much, however, reading other suggestions to other questions about roommates has helped & given me some thought to what I can do. One suggestion mostly given by those of you answering these questions is to make sure you understand the lease. And another is talking with the landlord. But first, I will attempt to talk to my roommate again.

Without going through the details about what went on in her life at the time she asked if I would be her roommate, we talked about company coming over along with other things. We discussed our likes & dislikes.

Honestly, I'm hoping we will work this out.

Thanks again.

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Originally Posted by excon

Hello again, tx:

You're right. HE has no rights. Your roommate, however, does. I understand you would not have done what you did, had you known then, what you know now. That's cool. It's still not her fault. Maybe if you had asked you would have found out. I dunno. I had a roommate once who handed me a dustpan and told me to clean the house. I didn't know that I was moving in with Mommy. But, of course, I didn't ask.

Considering this is a legal forum, my advice WAS legal - not sociological. If you can't (legally) tell her who she can have visit, then you have no legal recourse.

excon