I am 28yrs old engaged to a 37 yr old woman, at a early point in our relationship I was kind of distant... she started talking to who I thought was my best friend. He set me up to make it look like I was cheating with multiple partners, he wanted to play her Knight in shinning armor so to say. We split up for a short time, during that time he was spending the night with her, she slept with him once they split up, we are back together under the same roof and engaged! They text and talk behind my back she goes out to dinner with him once in a great while... She tells him that she loves him and misses him and refuses to tell him that we are engaged or even together, he is moving in two weeks and claims she wants to save his feelings from getting hurt. WELL WHAT ABOUT MINE! Selfish, I know, but I'm in love. Oh, did I mention he is 23yrs old... She claims she don't love him the way she loves me and that he has been there for her when I wasn't and he is only a friend... Please help, I am starting to get depressed and very angry. I have never loved anyone as much as I love her, I feel that she is my soulmate! Do I stick this thing out and let her handle this like she says she will, or do I cut bait and walk away?:confused:

Cut bait fast, and walk away. Her loyalty and fidelity are questionable at best.

I am looking for any advice... please, My heart is invested in this love, and I cannot take the easy way out. We have stuck by each other through the toughest of things, the worst of fights but yet still in love... I know she loves me more than anything except for our children, we don't have any together, but she has three and I have three, we are a combined family and there is a lot at stake! Please try not to give me the quick way of doing this. Thank you for taking the time too look

It is time time face reality my friend and walk away. At 37 years old it seems to me, that she does not know what she wants. She is not being truthful to you, and is more concerned with her feelings and not yours. It is not other person, it is simply her because she lives by her emotions and feelings which dictate her life right now.

Can anyone else comment or advise me on this... please help... I need more input please!!

Leave her now. As fast as you can. She tells you she loves another man. She refuses to tell him you are engaged.

Sorry I don't mean to be ruse but every once in a while I am absolutely gob smacked at some of the questions we get here. And this is one of them.

This is so cut and dried that there is no other answer but to run as far away from this women as you possibly can.

How is it love when she can't even walk away from another man and stop telling him that she loves him even though she is ENGAGED TO BE MARRIED to you?? Tell me how that is love?

I don't think you will listen but I do hope you do! For you and your kids sake. Because all they will end up in is a broken household again!!

You don't need more input, everything has been said, so stick around and be her fool if that's what you want to hear. If you had a shred of dignity you would not stand for that kind of treatment.

I think he doesn't want her as a girlfriend but she want him as a boyfriend. I would walk away. She may do this in future with someone else.
Trust me I know its hard just to walk away.

Thank you all for your advice, it is greatly appreciated... I am confident what I must do, thank you again