I live in Ontario, Canada, and my ex boyfriend (with whom I have a child with), has been driving his mothers truck while his license states that he needs an ignition interlock, also known as a Breathalyzer. My number one main concern is that he has been driving with our young child who is 8 months old, and I know this because I have seen him drop her off at his mothers house, he was by himself, and he was the driver. I also asked his mother if he could drive now, and she said no. I'm so appalled that they are both putting my daughter in such a situation. It's my understanding that when caught driving he could get the vehicle impounded. Is this accurate? I'm unsure of how I should go about this, he has her again tomorrow and I am worried he will just repeat this behavior until he eventually is caught. I also live in a very small town, which makes it even worst. What would anyone else do in my situation? I was thinking to call the police, but I doubt that it would stop him from driving. I also would talk to his mother, but she lies to me about everything. What should I do? It's extremely frustrating, and sometimes I wonder if I'm being dramatic about this, but this is my daughter that he's involving in his ignorance. I'm not out to ''get him'', I want my daughter to be safe!

How do you know that his mother's truck doesn't have an ignition interlock?

Also, remember that safety isn't directly dependent on whether the vehicle has an interlock; the main thing is whether he is driving under the influence. The interlock is merely a method for to prevent driving if he has been drinking. So, if he hasn't been drinking, while there may be a violation, your child's safety isn't affected.

If you aren't out to get him, let it be. The fact that you live in a very small town means that the cops are probably very much aware of his court order. Leave it to them.
Of course we aren't there and don't know all the hundreds of little things only you and he know about his concern for safety and his willingness to be safe, or whether or not he continues to drink.

(You say something about his ignorance - he doesn't know what he's facing?)

You both failed in a relationship a short time after a shared child was born. Please keep in mind that although he may be the one with a court order, you got involved with a man you didn't know well enough to have a child with. Accept that there will be certain aspects of dual parenting that aren't going to be 100%.

I don't mean to be harsh, as I get your concerns over your daughters safety, but you can't have it both ways. You can't dump on him, and still allow him to take his daughter while under a court order to drive a car with an ignition lock.

If he is wrong and irresponsible so are you. You never said he was drinking while he has your daughter (and his too.), and that factors into this as surely his mom would never let him drink and drive in her vehicle, especially not with her grand child. I am also very sure he has told you this.

I get you don't trust him, and are worried, but your issue is directly with him, not his mom, the cops, so I would take your concern up with him and see if something could be worked out to resolve this to both your benefits. Maybe you both could improve on this situation, with a calm conversation.

The car which he is driving, and would probably inconvenience anyone who owns it, should have a wheel lock installed so he cant drive it.

None of us has answered her first question - what will happen to him if caught?
I don't know. I suspect that it would have a lot to do with why he was stopped; what kind of violation. And depending on that, he might lose custody. I doubt very much that they will just ticket him and tell him he has 3 days to install a device on his mother's car. Doesn't work that way when on any kind of probation.

My advice still stands, but I will clarify: be aware, but only meddle when you really are willing to accept the consequences. I have a feeling that if he is drinking you would have said so.

Hi joy, Google OPP inter lock device, too much there to provide links

Suspect he is DUI which is zero tolerance in Ontario. Maximum fines up to 50 000 $.

If he is caught , it is jail time, which will SOLVE OP's problem of him driving with daughter in car.

He has lost his licence. If she has enough nerve rather then posting here and asking, before he kills someone... she should

Normally, Police will arrest him, impound the vehicle. He will at least lose his license completely.

If a child is with him, (at least in the US) children services will be called to get child, till another family member can be found.