Hi, I'm a 20 year old guy.

So I got new girlfriend a week ago or so... I used to be active a lot.. but now I Don't feel sexual active anymore.. When we cuddle and stuff I do get a little aroused but once we try to have sex it just doesn't want to happen.. it feels like its got an mind of its own.. and I don't know why Im not active anymore.. and Im to embarresed to talk to anyone about it..

Has someone got any thoughts about this?


Friendly regards..

The mind and body are just not ready for whatever reasons, be it mental, physical, or emotional. What else beside a new girlfriend is going on in your life and how old are you both? How long have you been dating? How long were you single before dating her?

There are so many factors to consider.

One week, well the fact you really don't know each other could be part of the issue.

Emotional over breakups and past relationships.

Maybe she in particular doesn't turn you on. You like her personality but not her body? Too nice and sisterly when you want naughty or just a bit unavailable? Too eager to get pregnant? Wants to jump right into marriage? Reminds you of your mother?

See if you can masturbate and let us know if it's the same as ever.
If not, you might have a drop in testosterone or something wrong with your prostate. Or something rare, or a nutritional deficiency, or depression that isn't obvious to you.

Are you on any medication or food supplements?

There's also the fact that at 20, you might be thinking about the enormity of your adult responsibilities, your career, where you are going in life. Maybe sex is just taking a back seat for a while.

You tell us!