Ok so here's my problem. Im a 20 year old male that has always had the same problem. I cannot orgasm during intercourse. Ive talked to many people and they say it's a blessing being able to go for hours, but I see it as my curse! I can make myself orgasm, but I have to masturbate differently? I just wonder if there is anyone out there who might actually have an idea on how to change this, and therefore change my life!

Simple, Don't masturbate.

and get to know your partner on a deeper level so your brain let's go.

Enjoy. And let me know how it goes...

I agree

Ok, I gueeeess I'll try that. But you know what your saying right? I've tried that before and it didn't work, but it was like for a month, and it drove me nutts.

Hi there, you need to show your partner how to masturbate you and ask her to show you where her magic buttons are, you will enjoy exploring each other and hopefully your problem will be solved, is love and understanding and openness that is called for, enjoy, take care, love and peace anne x

the mind is a powerful thing.

Have her tell you what turns her on while she pleasures herself...
And discover what turns you on... good news is women are OK with the process, so it's fine!
It is another way to loosen up... talk. Explore. It WILL happen.

Yea I will try that for sure. It is not with just one girl either, its been like this with all of them. I guess maybe I'm not sensitive enough down there? That could be it I guess who knows

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Originally Posted by intellectpursues

Ok so heres my problem. Im a 20 year old male that has always had the same problem. I cannot orgasm during intercourse. Ive talked to many people and they say its a blessing being able to go for hours, but I see it as my curse! I can make myself orgasm, but I have to masturbate differently? I just wonder if there is anyone out there who might actually have an idea on how to change this, and therefore change my life!

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Don't worry man I have the same problem I have never ever had an oragasm ever and the reason for that is I worry about giving them as many as I can and not feel a thing I don't have sex for me I have sex for them so just be lucky you can have one!! And also find a girl that your in love with or if you already have one then do something wild and crazy wit them have sex in a place were you can get into trouble so that way your addrenaline will be running and sex will make it all that much better a gas station where the door will lock.. I am sure you can figure out the rest with your imagination.. good luck

Try materbating as part of foreplay. Use her hands with yours and do it for while until you are close, then have sex straight afterwards.
Tell the girl because if she is anything like me she will see it as a challenge!
Watch porn with her too. Watch her masterbate while you do. Stop for a while if you haven't come after 45 minutes and play again (she may need the rest) and try again.
Good luck

I dated a guy with this problem. He needed strong pressure when masturbating to get off. I think his nerve endings in his penis were spread a little further apart than normal. We finally tried this and it worked. We would get into missionary position, he would be inside me. He would put his legs on the outside of mine, as if he were straddeling me. I would then cross my legs and squeese my thighs and area to make it tight. He had to push down hard on me. But It worked.

One of my brothers had this problem; he could have a 4 hour hard on before the days of Viagra, etc. He took psychotropic drugs, for one thing.

I don't think it is a good idea to think that you have to have a long session of intercourse with a woman... five minutes is enough for both of you to reach climax. Why drag it out? If the woman can't get off, it is her problem. She needs to work on her orgasmic response.

Just enjoy foreplay and after play if you wish.