I hope someone can help. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years with 2 of them being blissfully happy. We got very serious within the last 3 years but his attitude towards me has been flaky, I have had to question his motives over Facebook a few times though I am pretty sure there is no cheating involved. He has also started to ignore me randomly in which he denies but it is very obvious he does it - I feel he takes no responsibility for his part in how he acts which in turn makes me defensive and hurt.
Recently I have been going through a family bereavement and have been away for a month. The first two weeks he continued to ignore me randomly again and now I am back it's like he is caught up with being there for other people. I have been back 3 days and have sent him some frustrated messages and he has continued to ignore me and now will not respond to me at all.
I don't know what to do. He says he loves me when I ask him but he doesn't tell me like I believe he should. He hardly pays me any compliments and I cannot remember the last time we spent time together as a couple. I also feel it's very insensitive of him to be acting this way toward me now, when I need his support more than ever.
When we got together we agreed that we would not waste any time and if one of us felt it wasn't working, to be honest and finish the relationship. We are not cheaters and I am pretty sure he would finish with me first if he wanted to be with someone else.
I have always been a strong girl but the last 3 years have taken a toll on me and now I feel weak and needy. I know I have probably pushed him away as this was not who I was 5 years ago. I have tried talking to him though we seem to communication solely through Wassap (a messaging app on our phones) and I can not remember the last time he called me.
I feel angry and hurt he has not been there for me recently and him ignoring me has become a real sore point and I find myself almost obsessive over it. I have asked him to be honest as to what he is feeling but he says he loves me to pieces and knows things need to change, but then falls back into the same patterns.
I am over run with grief right now and the thought of losing him too has made me an even more emotional wreck than I am already... I just don't know what to do.