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  • Jul 19, 2014, 11:10 AM
    pineapple01
    My mom keeps telling me I'm stupid and weird and I'm sick of it?
    My mother would always be telling me how stupid I am, that I have no common sense and also tells me I'm weird and I am different from everyone else but that's just who I am! But worst of all last weekend for lunch my mom made a sandwich and I asked my mom if it was fish or chicken that was in the sandwich because it looked like fried fish but also chicken strips that's when my mom got so mad and she told me to use my brain and figure out what it was she told me I'm so stupid to even know the difference between fish and chicken, actually I do just that fried fish and chicken strips look similar in a way and she wouldn't even tell me what it is. Then she goes on for an hour lecture telling me that I don't use my brain, I have no common sense and keeps explaining what common sense is and told me I have none of that at all and wants me to take an IQ test because she thinks I'm so dumb she tells me I'm dumb and stupid all the time for example when we had a math question that I didn't understand and I asked her for help all she did was scream at my face and told me to use my brain to figure it out and tells me I'm so dumb I can't even do anything. But anyway last week when she was lecturing me about common sense for that hour I was almost crying I just wanted to run into the bathroom and cry because it just hurted my feelings so much I mean what parent tells their child their stupid? I was really hurt by all those words and the look on her face she was just angry and I hate it when she's angry because its scary I was almost crying but I tried fighting back the tears because I don't cry in front of anyone I hate crying in front of people but it was so hard.

    Since she thinks I'm so stupid she thinks its because I sleep too much since I'm always in my room but when I'm in my room I'm not always sleeping I'm just hanging around I'm my room. Sure, I may take a nap sometimes but mostly I'm not. But she thinks I do nothing but sleep all day so now she forbidded me to go to my room during the day and now the only time I can enter is at night when I sleep and now she locks my room and I am unable to go in she forbids me to nap but why is napping not allowed? And during school days when I come home from school I get very tired and I just want to sleep but my mom wakes me up and tells me I have to do my homework and I tell her I need to nap because I cannot concentrate at all on homework because I'm just so tired I need sleep but she tells me no I can't do that. Now that it's the summer she's still not letting me sleep during the day at all she says sleeping is for nighttime and I'm not an owl so I don't sleep during the day that's what she says but honestly I can't stand it.

    Next subject, she tells me I'm weird and my behavior is strange and things like that she says I dress weird and don't dress like other people my age. Well? I don't have to go with the crowd! Its my body I can dress however I want! Okay I may not wear dresses or skirts because I find pants more comforable its just who I am I believe I have a freedom to dress however I want, I pretty much just wear either jeans or sweatpants with a tshirt and hoodie or sweater everyday and she thinks its weird because I don't dress fashionable. Well that's just her opinion. Ok maybe I'm not fashinable I just wear what I like and what is comfortable I don't mind. She also says I'm weird because she said I don't act like anyone else, I am who I am I am not a clone of somebody else and whenever I tell her that she just looks at me frowning with this angry look.

    So is there anything I can do with this? I'm at the point where I don't ever want to talk to my mom ever again by the way I'm 15 so yeah and she thinks I'm stupid, weird and she thinks I sleep too much when I don't I don't want to deal with my mom ever again I hate living with my mom. I can't even ask her a simple question because she will say I'm stupid. It hurts a lot thinking my mom thinks it is OKAY to tell their own daughter RIGHT IN THE FACE that they're stupid, dumb, weird. It hurts a lot she's always angry with me for no reason I never see her happy around me I just want a normal, loving and fun relationship with my mother. Why can't me and my mom just have a good relationship like other mother-daughters?
  • Jul 19, 2014, 12:12 PM
    Wondergirl
    When do you go to bed, and when do you get up in the morning? Do you sleep well all night?
  • Jul 19, 2014, 12:32 PM
    pineapple01
    I fall asleep anywhere around 11 - 11:30 and get up at 7 on school days and on a regular day I may stay up later and sleep in until 9 - 10 or something. And I sleep OK at night I guess I do tend to wake up a few times in the middle of the night but that's all
  • Jul 19, 2014, 12:47 PM
    Wondergirl
    Then why are you so tired after school and need to nap? Maybe you need to get some bloodwork done. Are you eating healthful foods or a lot of junk? Do you have chores at home? How are those working out?
  • Jul 19, 2014, 01:00 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Have you ever spoken to a teacher or counselor about your mother? Do you have another relative you can talk to? When your homework is done what do you do with your time?
  • Jul 19, 2014, 01:11 PM
    Wondergirl
    Is your mom stressed out over something -- an ill friend or relative? something about your house? one of your sibs?
  • Jul 19, 2014, 02:42 PM
    pineapple01
    I just feel really tired when I come home from school I don't know it's the time of the day where I feel the most tired I just do. With foods, I do both pretty much I do snack a bit on junk foods, not a lot and I don't do it everyday but I just do it once in awhile and my meals are usually healthy like I do get somd vegetables in there and all that. Lastly, yes I do have chores I'm sure most people do. What I do is I help make dinner sometimes, I help do the laundry and clean the house but I don't do it on weekdays much except for cooking I do it during weekdays and weekends. No haven't spoken to anyone. I don't even know if this is normal I don't think so but no haven't talked to anyone about it. After I do homework I might go on the computer, read some books, or go on my phone, listen to music etc. My mom isn't stressed no there's no relative or friend who is ill and I don't have siblings so definitely nothing about that I'm an only child don't have siblings my mom isn't stressed. Plus, nothings wrong with our house everything's fine
  • Jul 19, 2014, 03:29 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Is your father in the picture? She could be stressed about things you have no clue about.
  • Jul 19, 2014, 03:38 PM
    pineapple01
    Well my dad is usually at work so its mostly just my mom and I who are at home

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