I just found porn on my boyfriend DS... I am utterly torn inside. I feel betrayed, what should I do? This isn't some guy I call my boyfriend that's been with me for a month, we have been together for almost 2 yrs. I just feel very heartbroken right now.

Do you think he cheated on you? Do you think he is out going with anybody else?

My theory is, is it not better for him to have it, just for looks then going around other people?

Who is he with? You, right! Just another way of looking at it. A mans view for you.

Joe

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Originally Posted by up424days

i just found porn on my bf DS... i am utterly torn inside. i feel betrayed, wat should i do? this isnt some guy i call my bf thats been with me for a month, we have been together for almost 2 yrs. i just feel very heartbroken right now.

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hunnny,all guys look and watch porn, it's a guy thing,I know exactly how u feel because its like umm why can't I just do all that for u,like why do u have to watch other hott girls,lol,its .like that kind of feeling right,like a sad and betrayed feeling. Well there's no end to that ask him a question like "babe,i saw that u watch porn,arent i good enuff for u" or just calm downa bit and accept the fact that every guy will do this my boyfriend that I see as a future husband like more then a boyfriend,has the same ,and a few posters of hott sexxy,nude girls on his walls,I know how u feel I feel depressed about that too,but just remember those girls are the fake airbrushed models and sluts in the porn videos and remind him that there sluts and at least your not a slut. =) well I hope I could help u out with feelings wise a bit but deffinetely confront him about this alrighty, PEace ~LISA~

Have a conversation about it and be nice, Its just the way men are and for most of us its harmless. Don't take it as a personal affront to your womanhood because its not.

Here is my standard advice on this you can do one of three things, go to the porn place with him (You might like it),2 buy a bunch of "girl porn" and sit around talking about how hot the guys are, 3 just get over it. But seriously I am not trying to make light of your feelings, but as my mother says "you have got to pick your battles".

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But seriously I am not trying to make light of your feelings, but as my mother says "you have got to pick your battles".

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I so agree but I'm a guy, what do I know?

I would just talk to him about it that's all you can do... dont try to turn it into a fight though... all guys look at porn... its only natural... be glad its just porn and not some person you know... it could be worse he could have cheated.

Yes its natural for guys to do that

Porn is perfectly healthy for both men and women. As long as it is not interferring with your normal sex life. Men have a stronger sex drive than women (most of the time, the tables do turn on occasion) and they need ways to release that sexual energy when you are not around or not in the mood.

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Get used to it


Until he starts ignoring you sexually, it's not a reflection on you or anything you do. That's just men being men.

You well all love porn! In fact I'm watching some right now haha :D