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  • Jul 14, 2014, 02:56 PM
    narolis
    Date with girl
    Hi,

    I met a girl from a dating site and I think I'm starting to like her, she is my type.
    We met in person yesterday.
    But I'm not use to dating, girls, and all this, I'm a bit a lonely person.
    So I'm a bit afraid and not sure what to do.
    We continue to talk on the site.

    Need tips how to act with her.
    How to know if she like me or not, if there is a chance there is something between us?

    Thank you
  • Jul 14, 2014, 03:48 PM
    talaniman
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...fe-789786.html

    What happened to her? Your question is strange given all your experience with other females. What am I missing here?
  • Jul 14, 2014, 03:57 PM
    narolis
    Hi,
    Yes sorry well it's over with the other one your talking about.
    This is a new one I just met.
    Because each time with a new girl I feel a bit insecure... and not sure what to do.
    So it have nothing to do with the other post.
    Thank you
  • Jul 14, 2014, 04:03 PM
    talaniman
    Be yourself and see what happen. Either you click or you don't but a second date/hangout/meeting is a hopeful sign, just as her agreeing to meet is a hopeful sign.
  • Jul 14, 2014, 04:04 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Take your time and get to know her and allow her to get to know you.
  • Jul 14, 2014, 04:11 PM
    narolis
    Do you have suggestion what to do for second meeting?
    How much time should I take before asking her for a second meeting?

    I hope I never live again what is in the other post...

    Thank
  • Jul 14, 2014, 04:16 PM
    Alty
    There are no rules, no amount of time you have to wait before asking her out, no specific place you should go, no specific things you should say. At least not if you want an actual relationship.

    Be yourself. Call when you want to, let her call when she wants to, ask her what she'd like to do, when she'd like to go out. She either likes you for you, or she doesn't. If she doesn't it's best to find out now, not 6 months from now when you can no longer keep up the act of being someone you're not.
  • Jul 14, 2014, 05:32 PM
    Jake2008
    Maybe you would feel a little more confident if you did have a plan.

    Each date would give you more understanding of the person you are interested in, so by the time you've gone out 10 times together, you should feel fairly comfortable that you like her, and she likes you.

    For the second date, I say keep it light, and no pressure. Plan to ask her if she'd like to see the new Planet of the Apes movie, or maybe go to a local theatre (do your homework). Find out what kind of movies she likes in other words, and see if you can't find something you'd both like.

    At the end of the date, ask her if she'd be interested in another date- no plans right off- and that you'll give her a shout on Wednesday. Then call her, and see if she has plans for Friday or Saturday night. Maybe out for dinner, or to a dance club, or both. Stepping it up a little bit, but not over the top.

    Keep this pattern roughly in place as you go along, and she may even call you and suggest something.

    The whole point of 'courtship' is to get to know someone without any expectations, promises, or sex. Let things happen naturally without pushing for too much too fast.

    Best of luck to you.
  • Jul 14, 2014, 06:07 PM
    smoothy
    I would avoid the topics of Children, honeymoons, or weddings on a second date as a rule.

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