I have been with him over9 months I meet him we started dating but I never thought that we would end up together. We move in together on the third month. Well I was going to leave out of town and I told him. So he said he wanted to go with me. Nothing did go well we came back he like it but I thought he was going to stay there. But no he follow me back home. We ended up living together. We had a lot of argument I would tell him to leave but he would come back of course I would take him back. We I meet him he was barely divorce for four months. I really want to leave but he tells me that he had decide to stay with me for a long time I really don't know I am so confuses.

I'm confused too? Am I too understand that after his wife divorced him he moved into your home or apartment that you are paying for and when you tell him to leave he says he's staying? How exactly does he get to make that decision? Get a backbone and kick him out. If he starts giving you trouble call the police and explain the situation. They will escort him out for you.

Learn how to say NO, and stand up for yourself. He wouldn't be running over you if you didn't let him. You should be mad as hell at this sort of treatment, instead of confused.

Looks like another case of the cycle of abuse starting with yet another girl.

Janine is right. This does sound like another case of abuse. Whether it be mental, physical. Him forcing himself and not taking no for an answer. If he does not leave your property and you want him to leave and do not want anything to do with him. You need to get a restraining order, you need to call the police to remove him from your property and you need to change your locks.

Joe

If you want to leave and he is controlling you, run, leave, change the locks, do something to get control of your life back again.

This is of course on only a few comments, not hearing the other side or knowing any facts