Hi I am 21 I've been with this girl for 5 years. I have taken her virginity and as far as I know we have never cheated on each other, but all of a sudden she joins this program she meets this guy and we start arguing and I end up leaving the house. She's been sending him naked pictures and lying to me about it but he lives in New Orleans and she lives in Toronto. She tells me she wants to just be friends but she calls me at night literally begging for me to come over and have sex, but its like when we try to have sex its not the same. I feel like she's waiting to have sex with him, but at the same time she's telling me she loves me, but she wants him. So I feel like a Plan B what should I do?? Should I ignore her or do you think she's just playing hard to get?

Walk away.. forget her... move on with your life. She made her choice. If she wants him she can have him... unless you are a fool and want someone you are dating to be fooling around on you and doing it behind your back.

If you have any self respect... and self esteme... tell her after 5 years if she doesn't know what she wants yet ( she should have known that long before now)... she can have the other guy, you don't want her and walk away...don't give her another chance to do it again...because this wasn't a one time indiscretion.

And it won't be the last one either.

"I have taken her virginity" Wow, you make it sound like a conquest. Kind of cheapens it really.

A relationship were there is game playing, and this certainly has it, is not a relationship. I agree with Smoothy - move on.

I think I would have been gone when the lying and naked pictures started, and for sure when the lets be friends, and calling at night for sex started. Yes ignore her and look forward to a fresh start without her. This relationship has run its course and time for change for the better.

Move on, if you just want cheap sex, make it clear to her, that is all you there for. And go find someone else.

If you were living together, her sending the nude photos ( unless you both agreed it was ok) would have been enough to leave