Why won't she tell me she has kids?
I'll keep this short, I've been recently seeing a really attractive girl, waaaay out of my league, over the last couple of weeks. The thing is she has a ton of baggage. I have a close friend who I tell everything to, I told her about the girl and she went online and pulled up a LOT of information. I'm 29, the girl is 31 (she originally told me she was 26, but has admitted to being 31). She was with a guy (he's 46) for 8 years, married for 6. She told me that she's been divorced for 6 months now. She didn't have to work because her ex took care of her financially and there's a few other small things, but the biggest thing is that I found out through social media that she has at least 3 kids. My friend's mom said that she has 5! I can't believe it because her body is insane.
Another friend (small world) said that he heard that she's not divorced and that she and her ex husband have recently got back together. Ok so here's where I stand: I've asked her half a dozen times if she's truly divorced and she always says "yes I'm single *laughs", BUT her ex is super controlling and wants her back and stays in her business as if they're still married. I've texted her a few times if she has kids, but she always responds an hour or 2 later on a completely different topic. When we're around each other in person I say slick like "kids are so annoying...they freak me out...I hate kids..." just to see what she says and she never even blinks an eye. So my theory is that she and her ex hubby are split and she hasn't mentioned her kids ever in life to me because she just wants something casual at the moment until she and her husband eventually get back together, which I'm completely OK with (I have no shame).
The thing that throws that theory kind of out the window is that she texts me sweet messages and wants to go out and have lunch and hang out and stuff and that freaks me out because if she wants something casual, why text me gf-like messages? My friend has a theory that she's waiting to lure me in first and THEN she'll spring her kids on me, but I mean that's a possibility, but it's messed up if she's doing that. But I've talked to a couple of girls in the past who had kids and they told me upfront that they had kids, but they were also looking for something serious, so what's the deal? Is she not telling me that she has kids because she wants to keep everything casual or because she doesn't want to tell me to keep me from running off? I also thought that maybe she was trying to "run game" or play me for whatever reason, but something just isn't adding up.
Oh yeah I also don't make a lot of money, I make just enough to pay my bills and get by and we joke around about how "broke" I am all the time, so her motive to reel me in due to money just isn't it either. I've asked her a few times why's she into me and she says things like "idk, you're just really nice" and she says this a lot "I'm scared of you because I'm starting to like you a lot..." etc. Always something about how she's afraid of me because she really likes me or whatever. I'm not naïve and that all sounds like game to me, but I don't know. It's just crazy because if she knew half of what I know about her she'd have an oh moment. Sorry for not keeping this short, advice please?