OK I'm 37 years ols never been in trouble all my life... The other night me and my boyfriend of a year and a half went out drinking and got into a fight in the middle of the street. The cops came and arrested both of us. The only thing I really remember is being shackled down at the jail. I kind of blacked out and don't even remember fighting with him. I just got out a couple days ago with no bail only to show up in court. I don't want to press charges on him or anything but I was wondering will I get prison time cause I'm scared to death. They told me I couldn't contact him or anything... he is still in jail for warrants for duis that he had... plus he used a different name but he had prior records and they found out who he was so he'll be doing definite jail time... but since it's my first and only time... do I have a reason to be nervous.. about going to jail or probation?:(

Hello yoshi:

I'm sure you won't do time. But, your boyfriend is another matter. He's going to serve time in both counties where he has warrants. There's no way to tell how much. I'd find another boyfriend.

excon

Well I love him and don't really think it's right to keep people away from each other, but everyone has their opinions... but do you also think that sometime after I can write to him without getting into trouble. Or is their any way I can fix it so that I can write to him. He is a good guy and I hate to see him in there with no one to write to him. Is there a way I can write to him using some other form of a nickname or something cause he does have a nickname for me. Thank you ex

Don't sweat it. You are not going to jail

You are not going to jail in that sense!

Although you will feel cut off from your partner you need to use the time he is inside to think truly about whether he is the guy for you?

Your boyfriend will be doing time, although you can of course latter visit him after he is sentenced and write to him.

This is just a start of a crminal history for you, first domestic violence charge and conviction will of course stop you from getting a lot of jobs and being able to own a firearm for the rest of your life most likely.

Next if you continue with a man where fun is getting so drunk that you don't remember being arrested and you stay with this person, then most likely you will have more of these plus other drinking related arrestes that will have you in lock up at somee time in the future.

The choices we make bad boyfriend, by ideas of having fun all lead to the road where police officers arrest you. As a police officer for many years and working with the prison system, I saw the same story time and time again. And of course I have heard your story form them as they were just beginning that path.

Oh, and the circle of domestic violence begins.

Let's see...

You and he get drunk...
He beats you...
The police are called and he gets arrested...
You love him and don't want to press charges...
He is sorry he loves you and he promises he will never do it again...

You and he get drunk...
He beats you...
The police are called and he gets arrested...
You love him and don't want to press charges...
He is sorry he loves you and he promises he will never do it again...

Do you see the cycle? It is a viscious circle and will not stop unless you get out of the relationship.

He is a good man you say? Hmmmm, how did you come to that conclusion? Any man that lays a hand on a woman is NOT a good man.

Is there a way I can write to him using some other form of a nickname or something cause he does have a nickname for me.

If a Judge has ordered you not to (and he has) don't. It can get you into allot of trouble. Just don't