I have a 23 year old son that I wish to have removed from my home. He is verbally and physically abusive and I cannot go through this anymore. He is so irresponsible and a PIG! He takes advantage of his father and has absolutely no consience. I don't want to charge him. Believe me when I tell you how many times I have called the police. But if I don't charge him they cannot do anything. I am afraid of him and I have explained this to his father (my husband) but he has taken a blind side and says he is too stressed out to handle this. And on top of everything else... he will not be able to see his two year old son anymore... I am 58 years old and don't want to live like this anymore.

Please HELP! Before someone reads about me in the paper. This is my fear!

You have two options. You either take out a restraining order against him. And if there are sufficient police reports you should get one. Or you go through the eviction process.

The police are not there to keep coming to your house, to calm everybody down, and then leave.

Why have you not followed through with laying charges? Have you seen a lawyer if you are unsure what to do or how to go about it- i.e. eviction?

Everything you don't do, feeds the fire of your son having control over your life. Think about that. He even knows he can get away with threatening behavior toward you, and you'll call the police, and then won't lay charges.

Until you are prepared to actually do something, there is no advice I can give you.

Of course you are still willing to take it. Because you are not willing to do anything about it.

You have to let the police arrest him and take him to jail. Your son ha learned that is is OK and you accept his abuse. So that is why he does it.

WHat do you expect... you allow this to happen over and over and refuse to do anything about it.

He does it because you continue to allow it to happen.

Have him arrested... get a restraining order... then have an eviction notoice served... in that order.

Or you can do nothing and allow it to continue until either you or his father (or both of you) end up in a hospital or dead. And its just a matter of time before that happens.