I'm 17 about to b 18 next month and my boyfriend is going to b 22 this month and we are deeply in love he works 2hrs away from here he wants me to leave with him and I want to leave with him I've had so much stress on me for the past 2 weeks he use to stay over every Saturday but since I told my mom we were having sex he can't stay anymore but we never had sex at the house his parents knew what we were doing it didn't bother them the welcome me to there home and said I can stay whenever but I love him and I want to be with him forever he wants to marry me

I know I sound stupid but please try to understand I live out in the country and nobody visits us I have no friends who live close we never go anywhere were always home just cleaning and I'm sick and tired of it and my mom has like 20 dogs and I hate the house smelling like dog sometimes we never go out ANYWHERE not even just to look around or to get out of the house were always home my mom said if I runaway to never come back

So I get it but what is your question. I don't think it's a good idea to runaway. Do you have money, the two do you?

You're a high school grad or still have to finish? College? Future work?

I lived in a very rural area from age ten until I went off to college 600 miles away (and my life opened up).

How long have you been with this guy?

It is what it sounds like... a teenager thinking they have it oh so aweful and some prince in shining armour is going to carry her away and they will live happily ever after. Well thats a fairy tale. Life can be pretty rough if you don't make the right decisions at the right times.

Running away never solves anything. And it's the immature thing to do. He parents are his parents... and their house has their rules... your parents make their own rules in their own house.

Next month you are an adult and can leave if you want... but remember when you find out life isn't all sunshine and rainbows (and trust me you will soon enough)... they don't have to let you come back. And they made that clear to you. Actions have consequences.

WHat you have sounds like lust... not love. Lust is impulsive... what you want to do is impulsive. Love makes you want to do the rational.. well thought out thing. Which is NOT what you want to do. Impulsive actions usually have fairly undesirable consequences. Impulsive reactions usually lead to regret and are poor decisions.

Marriage isn't a fix for all you have complained about. The success rate for people getting married so young is not good. Make sure you know this guy well.

Boredom is a lousy reason to leave home, as is being able to have sex with your boyfriend. Get a job, and some skills to feed yourself is a better choice, in the long run. He and his parents look better, and more inviting now, than staying with your own parents, but that can change and they will always take their son's side over you when the conflicts start, and trust me, there will be plenty of conflicts between you and your boyfriend in the NEAR future.

All the sex in the world won't stop it either. Then what?

It seems odd that you don't mention where you stand with your high school. Is it done for the year? Were you a junior, senior, home schooled, drop out?

If you graduated, and planned to leave on your 18th birthday, but now don't want to wait, the reality is that the cops aren't going to track you down if you leave now.

I'll keep it as clear as possible! Don't just run away with your boyfriend, because sex doesn't give you a picture of what he really is from inside, and most important you have know idea!when real life circumstances will hit your path how he going to behave so! Running with him is not wise thing to do! Believe me " People do Change" as the time goes. However, if you are very bored in the house, just be responsible for yourself, there is no remote control for your life, you by yourself have to do everything you want to do, go out by yourself, talk to people, meet new people, may be you can go to any nearby church where you can easily connect with people and they will welcome you, trust me! I know it will take time your not going to surround yourself with people in one day but it takes relationship. And don't marry now get to know your boyfriend more clearly! Life have so many colors, and your ganna see them as the time passes by!

Listen to your mother.

You lack enough maturity to see that you are making, possibly, the biggest mistake of your life.

I hope you are on the pill in the meantime.

Of course you want to run away with him! Everything will be so perfect! Well, until reality sets in.

This is a mistake...don't do it.

Depending on where you live, its possible your parents could have him thrown into jail.

Do not runaway, that is no way to begin a life together. Wait until you are 18 then you can decide.

It sounds like you really have NO PLAN. So to just run off and get married, is that the
Plan? Do you realize what the odds are, that you will not still be married in a couple of
Years? Not very good with a divorce rate at over 50%. Hon, you can't live on love. Marriage is more than sexual lust. Wait until you have a plan that has a greater chance of being successful.

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Originally Posted by catonsville

It sounds like you really have NO PLAN. So to just run off and get married

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Who said anything about marriage? The boyfriend asks her to leave with him. Nothing was said about marriage.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Who said anything about marriage? The boyfriend asks her to leave with him. Nothing was said about marriage.

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You win Boss. Excuse me Adios. ( but I love him and I want to be with him forever he wants to marry me) Hmmm

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Originally Posted by catonsville

You win Boss. Excuse me Adios. ( but I love him and I want to be with him forever he wants to marry me) Hmmm

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Whoops I missed that.

Do not run away, when you turn 18, behave like an adult, tell parents or mom, you are leaving with him, make a plan, (not living at his parents) make a plan for work, a place to live, how you are going to pay the bills and so on.