Here's the story.

I had a boyfriend and we have known each other for 4 years this year but we've only dated for 3 months and on our 3rd month anniversary he broke up with me because his mom found a naughty picture on his messages and know he is banned from speaking to me. He is treating me like a total stranger but when we are alone (which is once in a blue moon) he is so sweet and he cuddles me and hugs me and its like we are back together. But now we don't get time to be alone and he ignores me most days.

My friend and I got into a big fight and she spilled that she loves my boyfriend. Now she wants to try and ask him out. She keeps telling me that he won't go out with her and that she doesn't want to tell him because she doesn't want to hurt me but I'm so hurt.

She says that she won't do it because he doesn't like her but I keep trying to get her to ask him out. I don't want to say she can't date him because I want him and I don't know to do about this. How do I get him back without upsetting my friend and how do I make him want me without speaking, touching or being in 1m of him? Help please!!

This may be harsh but matters are out of your hands.

You decided to be "naughty" and now you are paying the price for that decision. You obey his mother's rules and leave him alone. He isn't allowed to speak to you so you stop trying. Going behind his mother's back will only end in more trouble for him and, if she hasn't contacted your parents, more trouble for you.

Stop encouraging your friend to ask him out. You don't want it and the only reason to encourage it would be to keep track of who he is seeing and what he is doing.

If he has made it clear to her that he doesn't want to go out with her then she should leave him alone and move on. You need to move on, too.

Why are you worried about upsetting your friend when you're upset with your friend for liking him? How old are you guys?
Leave the boy alone and he needs to obey his mom and leave you alone.

I dated one of my wife's SISTERS before we got together and got married... we remain very close to this day... in fact I am with All her sisters. Far more then ANY of my other bother-in-laws are.


I have to ask... exactly how old are the both of you. If you are under 18... sending nude photos is legally considered kiddie porn and can get both of you in some very serious legal trouble that will follow you for life.

I want to share something with you that I wish I learned at your age. You do not need to, and absolutely should not, try to figure out what to do to get any boy to like you. Instead, focus on being a quality girl. That is the most effective way to get and keep a really great guy.

Even if you're a teenager, think about who you want to end up with and what kind of life you want with a man as an adult. Do you want financial security and a nice home? A guy who is thoughtful and committed to you? Someone who enjoys visiting your parents at Christmas time? Well, then be an accomplished young lady. Dress classy and pretty but conservative. Don't try to be sexy or to win over the attention of boys. When you just take care of yourself, work toward goals and be nice to everyone, be genuine - the great guys will notice you and try to win your attention. Be a bit picky. Pass over the slackers, bad students, kids who get in trouble. They aren't good partner material. If you are a quality girl, you can wait for a quality guy.