I am a beginner driver, I have only driven a car three times. My sister is trying to teach me how to driver, but she tells me I'm thinking too much and I do get nervous. She said I need to "go with the flow" everything I do behind the wheel is a though process, I have a list of steps swirling through my mind. When I'm making I turn I'm going at least 20 mph or more and I can't straighten the wheel back fast enough. My sister said if I go slower when I'm making a turn the steering should twist back to middle if I loosen my grip. I step on the break too soon or too late. I'm 19 years old and I want to learn how to enjoy driving.

I started out driving in a big, empty parking lot--right turns, left turns, parking, backing. Are you on the streets already?

I'd find a different driving instructor. It's important to be aware of the rules when you're driving, be aware of your speed and the other vehicles around you, but if you're nervous, you're an accident waiting to happen.

It seems your sister is not able to teach you properly. I'd get a driving instructor, one that can teach you properly, without making you nervous.

Good luck. :)

A big empty parking lot is the best place to learn getting the feel of a car and building confidence. It's new and scary at first, but you will relax after about a week of practicing for one hour everyday.

I grew up on a farm setting, so I got a head start driving tractors and such at an early age. Best thing for me was the country, going out on the gravel roads and practicing where its nice an quiet. My whole family taught me from my dad, mom, grandpa, uncles and so on. But if the country isn't available the best thing would be the empty parking lot, and I agree a new instructor would be the best. Driving is a Privilege not a right.

I agree you need to be off the street and in a parking lot that is emply. Either late at night or one where they have not opened or abanoded. Plus you may want to consider a professional teacher, go with the flow is not teaching to drice

I agree that a sibling isn't usually a good way to learn, if you are finding it difficult.
I agree with your sister, however, that some people 'think too much.' I knew a guy who was a genius, yet a scary driver, with all sorts of complex reasoning for why he did the most ridiculous things on the road.
Not all driving instructors are the same either, so you need to find a really good one. I learned from someone who worked around the race car scene, and he was excellent.