Hello Everyone,

My roommate is my best friend, or at least I thought so. Few days ago I told her that there is a guy in our class with whom I had deep eye contacts. I told her that he tried to talk to me, but I avoided because I felt confused about my feeling. Her reply, ''You are just thinking too much.''

Whenever, I ask her something about my relationship with guys she replies the same way. There was another guy in our university who also trying to be closer with me. I tried to ask for her advice but she simple said that I exaggerate everything and all I need is to focus on my lessons.

She does not have a boyfriend right now, but she is looking for someone. But she does not know any of those guys either. Any ideas about her comments?

Thank you

I have no clue whether her lack of advice is from apathy or jealousy, and seemingly neither do you. Maye she is sincere on what she says, but you expect a different answer. It could be both, jealousy, and your paranoia at play here. At some point you will have to adjust to making your own decisions about how to deal with guys.

What do you really expect from her since she has given her opinion, and you don't seem to accept it. Does she ask you for guy advice?

It's possible that she doesn't want to be involved in drama. Eye contact is a very important communication skill that has little to do with romance.

You say that she is looking for someone right now. It's possible that she is jealous that you are getting attention and she isn't.

Since we don't know you, we don't know if you are being realistic or overly dramatic. We don't know her, so we can't speculate on whether she is jealous.

Maybe she is not interested in your love life, or lack of. Maybe she'd rather talk about other things, or maybe she is just a private person about things to do with boys, and keeps herself to herself on these matters.

After no-comment comments from her, I'd sort of get the idea that what you ask about potential boyfriends, is best left, unasked.

Do you have other friends? Do you have other friends that might be more receptive to your boyfriend type questions?

To be honest with you, you sound petty to be so confused about her not wanting to comment on the what-ifs of your non love life. This really does sound like high school to me.

Thank you for sharing your opinions. But she never seemed to be a private person. She often talked to me about her relationships openly. And she is much older than me that is why I was hoping that she could help me. I have another friend who listened to me till the end and gave some advice. I do not want to compare them I know that people are different, but it was a bit disappointing.

Don't be disappointed (for long anyway). Older people are often telling younger people to not let hormones, lust, or wants, as far as the opposite sex goes, be the priority, or a distraction for the pursuit of studies, career, and future goals. Possibly you expect more from this older friend than she was willing to give. That often happens.

Keep it in perspective as people are very different. Adjust what you expect from your friends, and you won't be as disappointed for as long.