Ask Me Help Desk - What's really in his mind?

What's really in his mind?

Tareq and I had promised each other that we won't go beyond kissing until marriage...

We both hail from a culture where love affairs are restricted.
But my family is a little more lenient than his..

That day we both kind of crossed our limits and almost got physical. But our conscious stopped us! He was gravely ashamed of it. Went home apologised to me like a million times. I consoled him but because of my temper I taunted him about the same incident after 2-3 days,when I got mad at him about something stupid!

He got pissed and cut contact with me completely for 3 days! Meanwhile a mutual friend tells me that he cheated on me. I felt he was lying but in spite of this I went up to meet his mum to verify certain things!

This drastic step of mine aggravated the situation for sure!

We were almost completely out of touch.

I called him recently, and after calling quite a few times he picks up and was pretty rude in the beginning and said,"Who the hell am I? I'm no one! I don't want to keep any relation with you!"
But when at a point I burst into tears and said,"Fine! I accept maybe you never loved me but I did and still do! And you literally mean the world to me! I can't stay away from you! I'll die if I atleast don't get to talk to you!!"
He suddenly melts like ice-cream and becomes extremely sweet and says,"You complete your exams and we'll talk then. Call me when your exam ends next month.."

Did he say this just for the sake of my exams,cause he doesn't want to ruin my exams as he (maybe) still cares? Or is it something positive?

WHAT IS REALLY IN HIS MIND?? :S

Get your exams out of the way and find out. Focus on reality, not the emotional drama caused by conflict, that only distracts you, and makes you crazy.

Who knows maybe you both will be cooler, and calmer, and more in control of your emotion, actions, and MOUTHS, and better able to talk like mature young adults, and not petulant out of control kids.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Get your exams out of the way and find out. Focus on reality, not the emotional drama caused by conflict, that only distracts you, and makes you crazy.

Who knows maybe you both will be cooler, and calmer, and more in control of your emotion, actions, and MOUTHS, and better able to talk like mature young adults, and not petulant out of control kids.

That's not the answer to my question brother.. What do you think he wants now? Is he having second thought about coming back to me? Has his anger cooled now?
Does he want to come back now?

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Originally Posted by Buntush

That's not the answer to my question brother.. What do you think he wants now? Is he having second thought about coming back to me? Has his anger cooled now?
Does he want to come back now?

You do understand we can't read his mind... we also don't know him at all... We can only guess and offer advice... which talaniman has done.

Not all men think alike, just as all women don't think alike. There are cultural differences that influence how people tend to think. Since you didn't mention what country you are from... we can't factor what we may know about that culture into our answers. And actually in this case...I think it might be quite important.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

You do understand we can't read his mind... we also don't know him at all... We can only guess and offer advice... which talaniman has done.

Not all men think alike, just as all women don't think alike. There are cultural differences that influence how people tend to think. Since you didn't mention what country you are from... we can't factor what we may know about that culture into our answers. And actually in this case...I think it might be quite important.

I'm from southeast Asia.. Bangladesh.. :p :p

Had you told him you would kill yourself if he left you?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Had you told him you would kill yourself if he left you?

OMG! Are you crazy? Of course I did not! I used "I'll die without you" as a metaphor only...

This is not the psychic hot line, and its obvious he wants the emotional drama to stop, and for you to focus on your exams, and regroup and try again later. That's what he said, that's what he wants, that's what he thinks, and I suggest that's what you do. Now relax and be patient.

That is the answer to your question. What do you think since you know him?

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Originally Posted by talaniman

This is not the psychic hot line, and its obvious he wants the emotional drama to stop, and for you to focus on your exams, and regroup and try again later. That's what he said, that's what he wants, that's what he thinks, and I suggest that's what you do. Now relax and be patient.

That is the answer to your question. What do you think since you know him?

1,It isn't an emotional drama because I talked to him after an entire month! Ain't I supposed to get emotional! I love him a lot! And I think it's something positive but then I'm just scared... :(

Well if you are so entitled to be so emotional then others are entitled to walk away if they are tired of it, or overwhelmed by it. Be considerate why don't you. Is that asking too much? There is a much better, more mature way of expressing yourself if you actually give it thought before you blurt out your emotions you know.

Then you won't have to be scared of how others react to you. Trust me when they back off, and leave you alone, you may be out of control, and overdoing the emotional a bit, and that my sister is high drama. Think on it.

Don't be scared, just be cool! :)

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Well if you are so entitled to be so emotional then others are entitled to walk away if they are tired of it, or overwhelmed by it. Be considerate why don't you. Is that asking too much? There is a much better, more mature way of expressing yourself if you actually give it thought before you blurt out your emotions you know.

Then you won't have to be scared of how others react to you. Trust me when they back off, and leave you alone, you may be out of control, and overdoing the emotional a bit, and that my sister is high drama. Think on it.

Don't be scared, just be cool! :)

That was really very helpful :D thank you soooo much! :p