How to deal with a long term relationship?
Hello!
I live in Romania. I met a girl about 2 months ago. When I met her, she had already decided that she wants to give up her job and move to London. After a month we got into a relationship, and now, she is in London. It's been around 1 week and a half since she left. I really like her, she really likes me (I think, at least). We have so much in common and I can really feel a chemistry going on. She said she wanted to move to London because she had no more motivation in Bucharest. Now I don't know what to say, because she had a decent job here. I can actually say she had a good salary, and her own place. Now she lives in London at some friends where she can stay 1 month, and then she has to rent a place. Now I know London is cool and stuff, but I tried to somehow tell her that she is doing a mistake because it is hard to find a decent job due to the competition in London. Not to mention how expensive rents are. Now she is looking for a job, but didn't t get any replies yet.
She told me that she misses her home, the people, etc and that she would even come back if she had the guarantee that i want to do something with my life (I must admit, I am 28, and thanks to my parents, I have all that I need, therefore I don't struggle in life. I work, but it is not a difficult job and my parents still help me from time to time with money. I guess she wants, as she told me a couple of days ago, to grow up, to get a proper job, do something with my life, not just let it pass by me. Although I told her: why should I struggle just because other people aren't as lucky as I am? Should I feel bad for them and try to be like them?).
My question is: what shall I do? I cannot guarantee that if she comes back to me, everything will be alright. I mean, we could break up, I don't know, the second day. I am supposed to go and visit her for a weekend next month. I would really like to have a relationship with her, but I don't know what do to in this situation.
What to do when you visit your girlfriend abroad and find out that she cheats you
Here is the story: met a girl and after a month she moved to London. I came on Thursday to visit her after 1 month and of course I couldn't trust her. After she fell asleep I looked into her phone, and damn!! 1) I saw a conversation between her and a guy she met through some friends from London.and it was more than a flirt. Such as: how experienced are you etc. 2) a conversation between her and her girlfriends where she was telling them that she met a guy who is very sexual and would want to meet with him on Saturday, only that she needs to get rid of me.
On Saturday she works. She told him they could meet during her 1hr break. I didn't t tell her that I know. At first I asked her if she would want to eat during her break on Saturday because on Saturday I will just walk around London. She said yes, but her break is only 1/2 hour. Not to mention that I paid for the hotel (of course I couldn't have asked her to pay since she has a place to stay) and that I don t know anyone here. So if I were to tell her to go, I would remain alone until Monday when I have my plane.
I told her I looked through her mobile phone. She didn't even apologize. I just asked her how could you have such a conversation with that guy while we were together in the room? So help, what shall I do? I would start a huge fight tonight and insult her.