Hello all, I wasn't sure which category to put this in so apologies.
I was having sex for the first time with my girlfriend and I found myself not been able to finish. I could get it up but just couldn't ***I am hoping this is just first time nerves sort of thing? My girlfriend asked me why I didn't because she is worried that it may have been her fault etc.. It wasn't obviously as it felt really good so I was just wondering if this is common. Thanks

Depends on ones age... How old are you.

How old are you?

According to this, he is 18:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ml#post3643466

I think a quick read through that thread will explain a lot. Everything is over-thought and worried about.

How long have you been dating this girl and is this your first sexual encounter?

I am 18 yes, and I think odinn7 this wasn't really over thought it just happened it was going well I got close a couple of times but never did. Answer to the other questions this is not my first sexual encounter but it was he first time I had sex. We have been dating for about 4 months now.

Oy vey. I just read through the other posting. Holy crappies he's going to over analyze this like there's no tomorrow.

Yes it's normal when you put too much stress on that particular situation to not finish - doesn't matter if it's your first time or your 1,903,809.2 time.

I think its time for therapy... normal people don't overanalyze everything like that. I'm not surprised that people who do that find trouble in everything.

You go to great details planning your retirement over your working career... you might spend a fair amount of time planning your career path... not everyone considers working at Walmart a lifetime career.

You make plans about using birth control... and if you spend every minute of the day tryign to plan a relationship where its mostly beyond anyone's control... You find the soldier fails to respond to orders.

Most things in life you take them as they come......or don't. If you can't....you won't enjoy what life has to offer.

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Originally Posted by pocock5

I am 18 yes, and I think odinn7 this wasn't really over thought it just happened it was going well I got close a couple of times but never did. Answer to the other questions this is not my first sexual encounter but it was he first time I had sex. We have been dating for about 4 months now.

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And when you got close, you thought about it and had in the back of your mind doubts about finishing...that will kill you off every time.

Don't put so much thought into it, analyze it so much, or put so much pressure on yourself. Just let it happen.

The pressure of the first time was getting to you and inhibiting your responses. Now you are making it worse by analyzing it too much. You need to relax more, friend. Don't make such a big deal out of it. I know that is difficult because at your age erections come easily and you have sexual thought all the time, and perhaps also because you looked forward to having intercourse so much. All this pressure has chilled your responses. Take some time off. Continue to see your girlfriend but do not plan to have sex. One day it will happen and you will feel the magic.