Ask Me Help Desk - Pregnant and lost

OK, so I am... We'll say young, recently I just found out I was pregnant. Im OK with the pregnancy, I know I can't have abortion. The really messy part is this the dad, who I am currently dating I don't have many feelings for. We've dated on and off for a little over three years, the very longest we were ever apart was six months where I met and what I feel like fell in love with another guy-Who I broke up with cause I freaked out when things were so perfect, not a fight, not even an argument. Anyway I guess while I was trying to give the guy I actually care for space I just hooked up with an ex (the dad) because of the convience... maybe, or maybe because I was drunk. Ive really got myself in a mess... BAD! I probably sound like a horrible person, but I really can't help my feelings I want to love the dad but I don't.

Think to do what's best for your child to come.
Think of her well being besides yours.
Think for 2.

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Originally Posted by change1113

ok, so I am... We'll say young, recently I just found out i was pregnant. Im ok with the pregnancy, I know I can't have abortion. The really messy part is this the dad, who I am currently dating I dont have many feelings for. we've dated on and off for a little over three years, the very longest we were ever apart was six months where I met and what I feel like fell in love with another guy-Who I broke up with cause I freaked out when things were so perfect, not a fight, not even an arguement. anyways I guess while I was trying to give the guy I actually care for space I just hooked up with an ex (the dad) because of the convience...maybe, or maybe becuase I was drunk. Ive really got myself in a mess... BAD!! I probably sound like a horrible person, but I really can't help my feelings I want to love the dad but I dont.

I try, but what is best for the child, Ive already fallen In love with it, I know I can provide, and I have loving family, but the dad is only going to stick around If we are togther. He has alredy voiced that clearly.

You can do it. Things are so complicated in life. Here is the deallio, Ths father of your child needs toacknowledge through actions his paternity not word nor through a past act but present and future actions. His participation will reveal his feelings for your child. If he doesn't love the child how will he love you. If he finds someone in the meantime to fill in between the birth of your child and now then there is your anser also. He AND you created this child and should at the very least be there for yo through this.