I am lesbian and all and see we are having some problems with me getting off. I mean I can almost get there but then it backs off. Then it starts again but it will do this for like 2 or 3 hours of her playing with me and she's doing everything right. I mean I can make myself orgasm alone but I can't when me and her are together. She wants me to get it checked out cause we have tried fingers dildos and vibrators and nothing seems to be working and we can't figure out why. So can someone please help us? Its not her that can't get off its me. I get her off and stuff but she can't seem to get me off, and I am not lying, it feels amazing, but I just can't seem to get off or anything.

Have you tried playing with yourself until you are about to have an orgasm, then let her take over?

Are you relying on physical stimulation to climax? Are you spending any time stimulating your mind and other senses? For most females, orgasm begins long before the clothes come off. Anticipation can have a major affect in female arousal.

Is she trying to touch you the way you do when you masturbate? Do you allow her to explore and try different amounts of pressure, speed, etc.? Understand that what gets you off when alone, may not work with a partner because the sensations are the same as your brain and body think they should be.

Are you comfortable with the thought of letting go with another person? Do you feel safe and secure? Is your body holding back because your mind is? Have you tried masturbating to climax in front of her?