Hi just wanted to see what some people think about this. Before I can explain. I'm pretty much just going with the flow with the situation about to tell. So wanted to see what you think... I have been talking to a guy who I thought was a type who wanted fun with no strings attached to it.. but when I asked him he said to me that he was looking for fun but if strings came he is not against it. WE all want fun and the right situation could lead to more.. Well from what I hear he is involvend with someone so not sure how I should take this. What do you think? Thanks

He wants in your shorts... he's trying to say just enough that it sounds like he is if that's going to get what he's after. He's a player. As shown by his being involved with someone else... and still trying to promise something he's not in the position of delivering to you. And who knows how many others as well.

How would I take this? I would walk away. Why get in the middle of something?

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Originally Posted by sugar222

Hi just wanted to see what some people think about this. Before I can explain. I'm pretty much just going with the flow with the situation about to tell. So wanted to see what you think... I have been talking to a guy who I thought was a type who wanted fun with no strings attached to it.. but when I asked him he said to me that he was looking for fun but if strings came he is not against it. WE all want fun and the right situation could lead to more.. Well from what I hear he is involvend with someone so not sure how I should take this. What do you think? Thanks

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How about instead of listening to gossip and rumors you ask him if he is involved with someone? If he is, walk away. If he seems to be evasive or lying, walk away. If he seems to be honest and isn't with anyone else, then go from there. Or are you looking for an easy out so you don't have to worry about feelings developing?

If all you are looking for is a playmate and he is single, then you have to decide if you want to take a chance on either one (or both) of you wanting 'more'.

You have a choice, keep talking and having fun but save the sex and the love for when you know more. Matter of fact you can have fun with whomever you choose whenever you want to, until you find the right guy to be exclusive with and risk exploring more with.

I had fun with them all, until the right one made all the other fun a waste of time. We agreed after a few months of dating that we would have EXCLUSIVE fun. Until you have that kind of agreement, have fun, but don't get carried away, and if that's not doable, then stay away.

Cat1864 good poin will think about that

Talanimian thanks for your input too. Good point. Did you go in with wanting fun and nothing more or were you up for more if it came down to it. Thanks

I usually go with the flow and see what happens to be honest. Just a fun loving guy myself :D It's a risk as Cat said developing feelings, or have someone develop feelings with you but yours are not the same. Sometimes you already have strong feelings but you don't know where it will lead for how long.

Bottom line is how much risk will you take and can you adjust to whatever happens next. No one can know, but honest straight communications is a must. You have to keep it real and don't scare yourself with assuming, and presuming, and idle gossip. There are no secret tips to avoiding hurt feelings or a broken heart. Just cope, adjust, move on to the next fun thing in life.

Sounds simple but any interaction with other people is complicated.

Thank you good advice..