Really Confused. G/F needs space and is acting heartless.
Where do I start. I was on the road for business, and met the most amazing woman ever. I have never clicked so good with anyone. I'm a relationship guy all the way. I can't wait to find the right woman, and start a family. At the time we met she had been separated from her husband for 5 months. We got real close, real quick, and within 1 1/2 months her divorce was final, and she moved 3 states away to be with me. I have never met a more down to earth girl than her. We were splitting images of each other. She moved in and everything seemed to be going good. We even talked about marriage, and had the same views as each other. She wanted to get engaged as soon as possible. (No she's not a gold digger) Things slowly began to change. She started to tell me no to everything I wanted us to do. Things she liked all of a sudden she hated. (Sex, Kissing, Going Out) She would only do what she wanted. Because I love her I adjusted. I soon became frustrated, and tried to talk to her about it. At that time, she clammed up and said that all I do is complain about what she's not doing. I asked her what makes her happy in life, and she said all I need and want is you.
Fast forward 1 year. We still argue, have bitter feelings sometimes, and intimacy is non existent. I know these are tell tale signs it's not meant to be, but I am having a hard time letting go. I haven't been happy for a long time, and either has she, but I am willing to work at it. She said we are two totally different people. When she does open up we are exactly alike. I have not been perfect, but I have always loved her. With her always pushing me away in the relationship, I inturn didn't give her any affection. We are both stubborn, but she never gives in. I am willing to accept her for who she is. I even asked her to marry me before she left. She pushed for marriage for so long, and she knows that I wouldn't ask unless I meant it. She said you know this is not what I want right now, return the ring, and later on down the road if it happens we will go pick one out together.
I must also say that she has been given anything she has ever wanted her whole life from her family. Her parents have kept her so close, she has never had the opportunity to be a young adult. Unfortunately it is happening at my expense.
Within the past 5 months met some good friends at her job, and I think they are really influencing her. She said she wanted space, and maybe sometime down the road things will be different with us. I helped her find an apartment, pick out furniture, TV, appliances. I helped her move. This is the first time she is FREE! She has no one to answer to, and she was really excited. I know this is something you must experience, I did.
It is just hard to do when your heart is involved.
She tells me she doesn't want to date anyone else, but I know she is going on dates, and is acting so out of character. She never liked to party or drink, and now she is doing it all the time. I spilled my heart to her, and told her I can understand if you don't love me anymore. (CLOSURE)
She tells me she still loves me, but she doesn't know what she wants. She is talking to a co-worker who I thought they were just friends. I don't know how serious it is. I just wonder is there anyway in 3 weeks he can replace what we had?
I am doing the whole NC thing, but I just need some people to talk to. Any feedback would be helpful!!
