Me and my boyfriend really want to have a baby, but it has not happened yet. We have been having unprotected sex for some years now, and nothing. We haven't been really trying, just hoping that maybe it would happen. I want to know should I go to the fertility clinic? I was scared to go because I am kind of young. I am 20 now. Someone please give me your opinion.

First talk to your OB/Gyn.

Hello, Generally it takes an average couple up to a year to conceive. That does not include if you were on any forms of birth control before that which can prolong the conceiving period…. Have you been charting your cycles and keeping note of when you had intercourse? A good site you can check out is MyMonthlyCycles - Menstrual Calendar, Ovulation Calendar, Fertility Cycles This site will help you track your fertility and help you pinpoint the best time to conceive. You only have a small window of possible days in your cycle that you may become pregnant. These are the few days leading up to ovulation, the day you ovulate, and the day after. The reason being is that the sperm can live inside you for up to 5-6 days depending on the environment. Another thing you might what to do is book an appointment with your doctor to talk about the subject and that way he/she can give you some advice and possibly complete some tests. I wouldn't get to stressed about it because this does a number on your body and can prolong conception as well. Just relax and enjoy the baby making experience :)

My advice to you is to go to the doctors and get checked,and don't forget your boyfriend he should get checked too. And don't worry about your age nobody but you and your boyfriend can decide when the right time to have a baby is. Just don't stress , I know people always say to relax and forget about it I know how hard it is to try and put something like that out of your mind. All I can say is enjoy the baby making process and the time you get to spend with your man try going away on a little vacation where it is stress free. Feel free to contact me, best wishes TG.

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Originally Posted by melpierce

Me and my boyfriend really want to have a baby, but it has not happened yet. We have been having unprotected sex for some years now, and nothing. We haven't been really trying, just hoping that maybe it would happen. I want to know should I go to the fertility clinic? I was scared to go because I am kind of young. I am 20 now. Someone please give me your opinion.

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Were you on the pill for a while before you started having unprotected sex. Sometimes it takes a while for your body to get back to normal after taking the pill.. A couple of my friends tried for 3 or 4 years before getting pregnant. I think that you are a little ways before you need to see a fertility specialist. If you are really serious about having a baby you need to figure out what your cycle is and only have sex on days that you are ovulating. A good link is Ovulation Calendar - Free to Use The one thing I do want to stress is to make sure you are absolutely ready for a baby. I see that you are only 20 and unmarried. My sister was a single mom of 2. She had her first when she was only 17 and although she loves her kids and wouldn't trade them for anything, She does wish that she had waited and enjoyed being free for as long as she could. She realized that she didn't love the babies father and that he was not good for her or her children and the kids are having a hard time to adjust. Please be sure that you want to be connected to your current boyfriend FOREVER.. Because in one way or another you will be. Good luck and God Bless!!

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Originally Posted by melpierce

Me and my boyfriend really want to have a baby, but it has not happened yet. We have been having unprotected sex for some years now, and nothing. We haven't been really trying, just hoping that maybe it would happen. I want to know should I go to the fertility clinic? I was scared to go because I am kind of young. I am 20 now. Someone please give me your opinion.

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I wouldn't go to a fertility clinic just your regular gyno... me and my boyfriend have been together for three years and never once used protection... with the hopes of concieving... I am twenty myself... I just told myself when the time is right it will happen... and now I think I could be so if I was you I would just go to my regular doctor to see what's going on do you keep up with your cycle and when you are supposed to ovulate?? Cause timing too is everything... I just recently learned how to track mine

When your over 20 I think you really need to make the decision over whether you are old enough. You're an adult now so people will not be so quick to judge you. However, if you feel you are not old enough to discuss it with your doctor, then I suspect maybe you are not quite at the right maturity level. Having a baby involves having very personal conversations with doctors and having doctors, nurses and even blinking students looking at you from all angles. Are you ready for that?
Also to be ready to have a baby you need to have a secure home and relationship to bring this baby into. You need to be able to finance a baby and know how you are going to get to hospital appointments etc. Finally I think it is really important that you are completely independent of your own mother before you should choose to be one yourself. If you can't say 'Mum, I want a baby' to her for fear that she will go mad then deep down you know you are not ready. And her support is something you will need on this.
If you think you are ready for all of this then go to your doctor and explain all of this to him/her and he will help you work out whether you are having sex at the right times and suggest you find out when you are ovulating. If your not then I really think you should sort out some form of contraception.