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  • Feb 9, 2014, 03:55 PM
    marylin_94
    I slept with a classmate, what should I do?
    And I hate myself for it.

    There's this guy at my college that I have known for only a couple of weeks. We have been talking to each other at school and texting non-stop. We really hit it off the second we started talking.

    Last Thursday he invited me to a party he was going to. I went and we had a great time at a club, we danced together and flirted lightly. After the club we went to grab a bite before going home. We joked about how he would spend the night at my place. Eventually, that's exactly what happened.

    So we ended up having sex. I initiated it. He is more conservative and he wasn't that thrilled to see me willing to do it right away. Also, he is much less experienced in that field than me. But we did it anyway - and I felt horrible afterwards. As if I had used him or something. I still hate myself even though we did it again today - he wanted to come over last night.

    We have talked for hours and hours about everything and trying to get to know each other. But I still feel awful. I feel like a filthy whore who just wants sex. And I'm not even sure if I want anything more! I have a couple of awful (recent) relationships behind me and I don't think the time is right for a new one. He is showing signs that he wants something more and I'm so confused that I've probably given those signals too.

    I just want to erase the whole thing that happened and stay friends. Is it even possible anymore?

    Sorry for a super long question.
  • Feb 9, 2014, 04:13 PM
    smoothy
    Really, really unlikely... you know the pandoras box thing. Hope you used protection... Something like 28% of people your age have HPV. You have to do what you feel is right... and based on what you've said... you should back away even if it ends your friendship.
  • Feb 9, 2014, 04:39 PM
    odinn7
    Tell him what you told us...see what happens. Honesty is really the best policy, no matter what the outcome.
  • Feb 9, 2014, 06:01 PM
    talaniman
    You can never predict how someone reacts, not even how YOU will react after the fact. I doubt you can expect things to go back to the way it was, but as Odinn7 says just be upfront and honest and deal with the outcome.
  • Feb 12, 2014, 08:26 AM
    fairytail
    Yup be honest... and its totally fine to have casual sex . I don't understand why some people still think that having sex is a devils act :P
    Its totally fine to give pleasure to your body , you have only one and you can enjoy maximum with your body only till a certain age/time . So just have fun , having sex more and more doesn't makes you a filthy whore .
  • Feb 12, 2014, 09:30 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Casual sex is common, and please if he did not want to have sex, he would not have came to your apartment, got naked and did it.

    Often conservative or shy guys, just need someone else to suggest it, Then they can justify it to theirself, it was not their idea.

    So you knew him a few weeks, a little fast, but some do it first time they meet,

    It is over, finished, the only question, do you date or are you friends.
    Do you keep having sex now ?

    You and him need to talk, be honest and see what each wants

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