The advice given on this site is absolutely fantastic. I'm sure hundreds of people log in everyday to find answers or even just to vent, and I for one always log off feeling a little better about myself.

So what this thread is about, and it mite be a bit of a stretch, is I want people to post here who are genuinely HAPPY after ending a serious relationship. People who have been through all the heartache, past the NC and have come out on the other side a better person for it...

What my plan is, is every time people such as myself are feeling like crap, thinking about breaking nc or whatnot, can look at the posts on this thread and know that there IS light at the end of this very dark tunnel...

I guess all the happy people move on and don't need this site anymore!

No they haven't all moved on from here at all. There are heaps still here and they will post on here no doubt. Just give it some time. All our friends in the US are on a different time zone to us couple of Aussie's here.

I can honestly say that the person I am today, 12 months on after a 7 year relationship is so so much better than the person I was before. I have learnt so much about myself and have improved so much as a person (thats only my opinion) that although I can't say I'm HAPPY that I lost someone very very special to me, I can say that it was something that in many ways I needed to happen to me.

Don't get me wrong, it hurts and I do miss her at times but there has also been so many positive things to have come out of it. Most of all how much I have learnt about myself. Im sure you will too.

But don't kid yourself. It is a long hard road with so many ups and downs. I still have them from time to time myself. But so much less now than before. It would have been our 8 year anniversary the other day and I thought I may have felt a little down, but I didn't at all. I didn't even think twice about it.

You'll be fine. If you listen to the advice here and treat yourself well then you may surprise yourself at what you get out of the whole horrible experience.

So there is light at the end of the very dark tunnel and sometimes you think you will never get to see it, but one day all of a sudden it might just appear and blind you when you least expect it.

Yeah the word HAPPY is a bit strong... I doubt many will post to say they feel happy, feeling good or in a better place perhaps.

I feel OK,sometimes I feel great ,ups and downs along the way and I have learned a lot and changed my life a lot.

I'm 11 months(5 months since I have seen him) on now which is so hard to believe.

As Skell put very nicely there is light at the end of the long dark tunnel..

I agree with rol I doubt happy is the right word.

But when I came here I was on the edg from my 19 month relationship ending but the advice I got her has helped me to move on and continue with my life I would have probably still have been sulking and in my little box if it wernt for the people here thank you all.

What's wrong with being happy?

;-) nothing wrong with it at all:) I am always happy.

It was just the wording of the post perhaps "i want people to post here who are genuinely HAPPY after ending a serious relationship"