I feel stupid even writing this but there Is a guy I have liked for 2 months. Whenever we talked, it was for hours. When we spoke online he'd always call me because we had so much to say.

Last time we were due to meet up on a Friday, he forgot so suggested Sunday. I jokingly told him he was in the doghouse but agreed to Sunday. Sunday came around and he cancelled last minute with family problems saying he knows I don't deserve this and I can either forgive him or never talk to him again

I just said if he wants to see me it's up to him to make the effort. We spoke since then but no mention of meeting. After around a week and a half I told him if he wasn't interested in seeing me then I would stop wasting my time.

He said this was not the case at all and we ended up having a laugh generally so I left it. I haven't spoke to him in around a week as I wanted to see if he'd get in contact to make plans. However, I've been in hospital because of my heart (something he and I discussed) so I called to tell him about it. When he didn't answer I text him asking if he could give me a call if he has a moment.

He didn't call. So later that night (I knew he was still awake as he was online) I text him saying I just wanted to let him know how hospital went, I'm guessing he's busy. Nothing.

Now I know I shouldn't have but being Ill has knocked my confidence and made me feel sensitive and a bit vulnerable. So late the next day on fb I asked him if he was OK? And if he didn't want to talk to me please say and I'll vanish. No response.

I have low confidence but have tried to do everything right this time up until now... No premature sex, no contacting too often, showing I have a life away from him etc

He's not going to respond. I'm feeling quite hurt and have no idea what has possibly illicited this. I can only think maybe he felt I was pressuring him to meet up and it put him off. Anyway my question is- he's on my fb, twitter and Instagram and not removed me. Seeing his face and name online and ignoring me is upsetting me. Should I delete him off them? Is that too dramatic? Should I leave it a few days? Why hasn't he deleted me? Can anything change his mind now? :(

You should have deleted him after he didn't talk to you for a week. Why should the actions of a low life, cowardly, boob, shake Yourself esteem and confidence? That's my question. Hurt yes, disappointed of course. But never down on yourself. Its HIM, not YOU.

Of course delete ,and disappear, and even if he changes his mind, I doubt his character or low class changes.

Thank you, I really do appreciate you taking the time to respond. I know this is a little off topic but I always get treated in this manner. People tell me it's not me but I am the common denominator. It's not even like all the men I go for are similar. I feel inherently that for whatever reason I'm not good enough/lovable. What could I be missing?

Drop this guy from everything and don't allow guys to keep you scrambling for attention.
He is a thoughtless creep. Since you two were not really dating he may have found someone else to play with.
Forget about him.

You are actually fortunate in that you have found out a lot about this guy's questionable character this early in the game. Move on and don't look for any signs that there is something there like many do.
Quit checking his wherabouts, and online or not etc. It is not helpful in any regard. If he tries to crawl back, don't fall for it.

Maybe you aren't making the right adjustments or the right choices in guys. I know with this guy you held on too long after his behavior was telling you to leave him alone. I think you give your heart away too fast, and have high expectations way too soon.

I also think you ignore obvious red flags that show true nature and character of your object of affection. For sure stop giving guys so many chances to ignore you by stop chasing them. Matter of fact, learn to run the other way.

Everyone else that answered is correct....

Don't let this idiot dictate to you how you should feel about yourself. He is obviously some sort of worm since he didn't even have the decency to at least let you know he was moving on.

Delete him from everything and don't look back. Keep trying and don't settle for jerks like this. You will find someone that treats you right...just don't settle!

Thanks you for the answers. You are all, of course, right. He did respond last night. He said he did not want to form an attachment through the fact I'm unwell so didn't want to enter into discussions about it, not that he wants to cut me off.

So he gets another chance, or will you cut him off?

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Originally Posted by serenity04

Thanks you for the answers. You are all, of course, right. He did respond last night. He said he did not want to form an attachment through the fact I'm unwell so didn't want to enter into discussions about it, not that he wants to cut me off.

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He was rude and thoughtless nevertheless and I do hope you are done with him.

No, he doesn't get another chance. This as an isolated incident I could have given, but he clearly does not have a track record of making an effort and treating me well.

So no reason to have any further contact with him whatsoever right?

None whatsoever. I've had enough.

Let it go... He is not for you. Even if he has convincing excuses, it's not a satisfying relationship so move on.

I hope you end it with him, he doesn't deserve your time, if he isn't going to make the effort back. I know you probably really like him and its upt o you what you do, but think about if he's really worth all the stress and worry and if all the problems you are going through with him will be worth it in the end and if there is even a point in continuing your relationship. Because if it goes bad you will always regret not breaking it off now before you got hurt, but it could go great and you could have a great relationship... So don't let this guy dictate your life and make sure you make the best choice for you in this relationship...
I know this may not be much help to you as I haven't given youa direct answer, but I'm just telling you to consider all the factor before you make any drastic actions and if you do to stick by them afterwards... Hope it all work you for you And GOOD LUck with him!!