I'm a 13 year old kid who needs some help! So I found out that my mum cheated on my dad for 2 years! My dad knows but the family atmosphere is destroyed! My brother is awful with emotions and I try to comfort him as I know he is sad but he just shrugs me off! I feel ashamed and disgusted in my own mother!I mean how could she do this to me? When I was younger I though she was the strongest and best women ever but really she was cheating behind my whole family's back! She keeps crying so do I so does my dad and brother! I just don't know what to do with myself someone help please! Me and my family are a blooming mess!please!

Yes, it's awful, and I suppose it isn't much consolation to know that many kids go through this.
First - fixing your mother or your parents' marriage isn't your job. That's the toughest part to understand. (And their problems aren't your fault either.. )
Second - try to be strong for your brother. I assume he's younger than you? He needs a comforting arm around his shoulder, help with homework, distractions, but also the realization that this could very easily lead to your parents getting a divorce. Don't quiz them - they probably don't know yet themselves.
Third - try to realize that what one parent does that is 'wrong' isn't always what you think. Sometimes the other parent cheated first. Or said something horrible. Or never touched the other one, nothing tender at all. You can't possibly know, and they will probably never tell you.
Do you have a best friend? Is there anyone you can confide in, and who can listen to you?

Keep in mind as was said.. its not yours to fix... second... as hard as this is to grasp at this point in your life... they are your parents but they are also regular people (you may begin to understand this in 10 or 20 more years).. and as such imperfect and make mistakes. Also as was said.. you don't know everything, there is a lot more to it without a doubt. Its for your dad to deal with... and no matter what happens... they are still both your parents and how they feel about you both never changed.

Please don't judge your mother, it is not your place. It is your place to stop crying and support her in her time of deepest regret, as I am sure she is. She is still the mother you always thought she was. Could be she needs your shoulder to cry on, as she has probably offered to you many times. Be kind and you will learn a very important lesson in life.

alfie, you need to stay out of your parents' relationship.

It is not your place to become the adult in the family. It is your parents' responsibility to work through their issues while remembering that they are the adults and are in charge of the family.

You should not become your mother's confidant or shoulder to lean on. If she needs comforting she has other adults to lean on. Same thing goes for your father.

Be there for your brother, but do not take on the role of a parent. If he doesn't want to talk or hug, don't try to make him. Be there for him if he does.

You might ask your parents about family counseling to give you and your brother a place to discuss your feelings and emotional needs.

Don't judge your mother. She made her choices for her own reasons. But those are for the adults to work through. What she did was not an attack on you so don't personalize it.

I know it won't be easy to sit back and wait for the outcome, but that is what you need to do. Go to school, study, do your chores, hang out with friends, find positive ways to distract yourself and maybe your brother from the problems.

All families go through hard times and it can get messy. You do need someone to talk to, an adult, and your parents are the best adults. But they are also human, and make mistakes and often don't know what to do next. The important thing is until they can talk to you, be patient, and don't add to the mess. Its not your problem but what is in your control is to help your sibling through it.

It's a struggle, but will get resolved. Takes time. Even if you were older and knew what to do, its still their problem to solve. You have to let them without judging either of them. Many things in life can make family life a mess. Cheating is just ONE of them, and it has many causes that you may not be aware of, or understand so don't act out because things are MESSY right now.

I wish you luck, and strength.

First, this has nothing to do with you. You will find out, as you get older, the large number of husbands or wife that have some affair or some level of cheating at some point.

Your dad knows, and it appears they are trying to work it out.
The other chocie is divorce and often is no better.

Your parents have to work this out and should consider counseling.

If it not your job to do anything but love both mother and father. You do not know why it happened, there may be a lot more to what happened than a 13 year old can understand

Thank you everyone:)i will take your advise on bored

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Originally Posted by alfie4444

Thank you everyone:)i will take your advise on bored

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You mean take the advice "onboard"

Not helpful tickle!