Ask Me Help Desk - Bullied Boyfriend

Bullied Boyfriend - what do I do?

So basically, I've been asked out by a guy in my year and I already have a boyfriend who I am happy with and we have been together for over a year now. The guy who asked me out can't accept the fact that I rejected him and he is now being nasty to my boyfriend in front of me. He's calling him a and a load of other horrid stuff. My boyfriend is quite shy and he doesn't really stand up for himself, WHAT DO I DO TO HELP HIM? And what do I do to get the guy who asked me out to stop pestering us both?

Btw I know this is really stupid and you may not understand but me and my boyfriend don't talk, we simply say hi to each other and smile, then walk away. It's always been the same. So if I'm going to try and help him, it's going to be awkward, HELLLLPPPPP PLEAASAEEEE

How old are you? You guys have been boyfriend and girlfriend one year and you don't talk?
If he is being bullied and won't say anything, that's on him, maybe it does not bother him. Just ignore the guy or speak to someone at your school if it is intolerable.

How can you be boyfriend and girlfriend but say no more than "hi" and then walk away.

Is this 6th grade?

You can do nothing in this situation. Anything you try to do will likely make it all worse.

It's awkward when we talk.

I have liked this guy for over a year now, he's really shy and even more shy when he's around me (he likes me back) I'm pretty shy as well and so whenever we tried to talk to each other it was really awkward. We had nothing to say and we would be standing in silence. Awkward, right? Now, we only say hi when we pass each other, (with a smile) I really want to start talking to him just like a normal friend and I don't want it to be awkward. I don't know how to approach him as he is always with his friends. When I ask my friends what to do they tell me to go up to him and ask him how his day has been and simple stuff like that, but wouldn't he be a little freaked out if I just randomly walked up to him and said that? I want to talk to him and I don't know how to ! Please help me ASAP.

Your friends advice is not bad. A conversation has to start somewhere. How old are the two of you?

We're both 15, thanks for the answer :)

My boyfriend is ignoring me?

So here's my story, I've been dating this guy for almost a year now, everything was going fine until now, he's ignoring me. He walks straight by me and doesn't even smile anymore when he looks at me. He'll look at me and walk away. I have recently been asked out by another guy and I obviously rejected him as I have a boyfriend but the guy who asked me out won't stop bugging my boyfriend, telling him how much he wants sex with me (this is behind my back, a friend told me about it) I have also been hanging around one of my best friends who is a guy, would my boyfriend be jealous and is that why he's ignoring me? I have no idea! I'm so confused.

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He is mad and jealous and feels neglected so he wants you to feel the same way. No telling when he will get over it, calm down, or want to talk to you.

He's your boyfriend, why don't you ask him.

Or he has allowed the bully to intimidate him, and although that might be a tough situation for him, he has shown his hand and dropped you like a hot potato. He will likely do it in many future situations of all types, too. Count it as a positive, learning experience and move on and don't turn back, ever.

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Originally Posted by AmyStylinson3

So here's my story, I've been dating this guy for almost a year now, everything was going fine until now, he's ignoring me. He walks straight by me and doesn't even smile anymore when he looks at me. He'll look at me and walk away. I have recently been asked out by another guy and I obviously rejected him as I have a boyfriend but the guy who asked me out won't stop bugging my boyfriend, telling him how much he wants sex with me (this is behind my back, a friend told me about it) I have also been hanging around one of my best friends who is a guy, would my boyfriend be jealous and is that why he's ignoring me? I have no idea! I'm so confused.

What is the real story? You have called him your boyfriend a couple of times but you have also said he is a boy you have liked:

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Originally Posted by AmyStylinson3

I have liked this guy for over a year now, he's really shy and even more shy when he's around me (he likes me back) I'm pretty shy as well and so whenever we tried to talk to each other it was really awkward. We had nothing to say and we would be standing in silence. Awkward, right? Now, we only say hi when we pass each other, (with a smile) I really want to start talking to him just like a normal friend and I don't want it to be awkward. I don't know how to approach him as he is always with his friends. When I ask my friends what to do they tell me to go up to him and ask him how his day has been and simple stuff like that, but wouldn't he be a little freaked out if I just randomly walked up to him and said that? I want to talk to him and I don't know how to ! Please help me ASAP.

I get the impression the situation isn't as clear as you want it to be. Is he really your boyfriend? Have you really been dating for almost a year? Or are you hoping he will be your boyfriend but the other male is causing problems? Is he ignoring you because he is upset or he just isn't as interested in you as you want him to be?

Yeah, so are you dating him or you just like him?
Maybe he is just not interested in you.

If a guy no longer wants to be your boyfriend, date, or even speak to you, then you leave him alone, plain and simple.

Your questions all point to a different situation and I have to wonder which is the real life version...or is any of it?

He's your boyfriend but you don't talk.

He's a guy you like but he ignores you.

He's your boyfriend and you've been dating for a year.

It's awkward to talk to him.

Tell us the REAL LIFE VERSION and we may be able to help...until then, we are all wasting our time.

He's jealous then, you know what ex's or boyfriends/girlfriends are like they act all weird around you untill they realize that they should always be with each other and stand up for each and they differently should help each other by explaining and asking questions. Hope this works.