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I'm the new kid, and I met her in drama class, her group needed another person for there skit, and it seems she snatched me up pretty quickly. Anyway, after a few days of practicing the skit, she had lightly punched me in the arm, which set off alarms in my head. I really like her, but she is already with someone, though I feel their relationship is a bit rocky. I can't wait to ask her out. Any tips on how to figure out if she likes me back?? I would appreciate it!
Sorry kid, but no. If she's with someone else, no matter how shaky you feel their relationships is, you have no right to go after her. How would you feel if you were dating her and some guy thought he had the right to ask her out, when he knew full well you were with her?
Not cool bro. Not cool at all. Don't be a douche.
Whether she likes you are not does not matter. She is with someone else.
It's not a cool or smart thing to do.
I'm sorry, I didn't mean for it to come out that way, I am just looking for advice about what to say or do if they do split, sorry if I came off like a douche...
If they do split up you give her time. You don't want to be a rebound. But, if they do split, and she gets over the split, the best thing to be is her friend, and then see what happens. Ask her on group dates, and then start asking to go on single dates. Going to the movies is always great for a first date, it doesn't require a lot of talking, but you can still be together. It's not as nerve racking as going to dinner where you have to talk the entire time.Quote:
Originally Posted by kyletheboss
Right now you just be her friend. Obviously she's a teen, so it's likely that she will break up with this guy sooner or later. But never ever ever ask out a girl that's in a relationship. The rule of thumb is, if you wouldn't want someone to do it to you, don't do it to someone else.
You don't go after her. If they split, do you want to be the rebound?
Don't get carried away by this crush. Look around you and make friends so you don't obsess over this one girl who is taken and waiting for her to dump this fellow so you can have a chance.
How old are you both?
Both 15 and dw it's not some creepy obsession thing xd
Pleas don't use text speech. I have no idea what dw or xd means.Quote:
Originally Posted by kyletheboss
I'm going to give a different response. You don't say how you know her relationship is rocky or what that really means, but I will say that if you like someone, you don't leap right to asking for a date. This seems to be an epidemic with teens and I don't know why. You go through little steps of increasing friendship! I'm not going to write the book on that; you can do it. You turn and smile as you leave. You say HI from across the room. You say 'I could talk with you all day.' You say how nice her hair looks, or any compliment. Good grief! What ever happened to the art of gentle attraction?
Dw being don't worry, and XD is a form of emoticon, I try to avoid text talk, but I figured those were common knowledge
Text speak is against site rules so please avoid using it. Thank you.Quote:
Originally Posted by kyletheboss
You say that you are new to the school. Am I right in thinking you don't have many friends, yet? Is she the first female showing an interest in being your friend?
I think you need to meet more people. Make more friends. Don't read too much into her offer of friendship. Don't allow your gratitude at her overture cause you to think you feel more than you probably do. Don't let your imagination run away with you.
Have fun making new friends and your crush on her will probably fade.
She asked me to date her best friend, so crap, I think it's over, even if her boyfriend and her split. I dint that what begins the friend zone?
She, my crush just asked me to date her best friend, who I am really not into, besides from that my crush already has a boyfriend so not much to do about that...
Are you supposed to go out or something? You just say you don't want to go out.
Well,since I am in high school, you probably figure what "going out" with someone means, usually according to the whole boyfriend girlfriend deal...
kyle, please stop making new threads about this subject (your crush, her friend, etc.) We try to keep all background information in one place so that we can give you the best and most appropriate advice we can. New threads will be merged or deleted.Quote:
Originally Posted by kyletheboss
You have always been in the friend-zone.
If you really don't like her, then don't go out with her. But you may not friend attractive at this time because you like the person setting you up, however, she may be a great person if you give yourself a chance to get to know her. It is also a chance to make a new friend.
edited to add: Getting to know her doesn't mean you have to date or go out with her. Just give yourself and her a chance to talk and see how you each feel about getting to know each other better when the 'crush' isn't involved.
If they ever break up all you have to do is make her feel better and be there for her. Listen to her. But for now just try to be besties with her.
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