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  • Jan 3, 2014, 08:41 PM
    beplmi
    How do I fix this?
    This may sound terrible but.. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 8 months. Recently we have not been getting along very well so we broke it off a few days ago. I was confused about my feelings and invited another guy out. We had a lot to drink and my drunk self invited him over. When we got to my house I passed out and forgot that he was still there. My now ex boyrfiend works midnights so I did not mean for him to see another guy at our home. I know how ty it was of me, but I lost control. He came home when this guy was still there and got very upset. I want to work on our relationship but now I know he wants nothing to do with me. He is not someone I want to let go and if I could I would never have invited anyone out. I love him very much. My actions don't prove that, but I honestly do. I can't lose him.
  • Jan 3, 2014, 09:28 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Most likely it is too late. There are prices we pay for our action, your drunken stupidity, and of course we blame the drinking, but you still made the choice.

    He has lost all trust in you, and to make it worst, brought the man home, not a hotel room, not the mans's home, but you rubbed the other man into his face, in his own home.

    Your ex, would remember that other man, in that house, so I do not ever see the relationship working in the same house, and never really.
  • Jan 5, 2014, 11:40 AM
    talaniman
    Its not you who can fix things after such a bad decision. He has to want to fix things himself. I doubt you can make him change his mind, but your BEST behavior is where you start NOW. Whether it works, is up to him.

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