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  • Dec 25, 2013, 02:36 AM
    Missunique
    Having problems moving on from the past.
    It all started when my boyfriend/hubby ( we are customarily married since April 2013) and I went to visit our home town. He had to meet up with some guy as he was supposed to buy parts for the car. So him and his friend dropped me off at the mall, but ti turned that my boyfriend had forgotten his phone. He called me and asked if I could go back at the house and text him the number,

    I went back and I text him the number just as I was asked to do. Whilst at it I decided to look at his photo album I was shocked with what I saw. The most shocking one he was half naked with some girl in the bathroom which kind of appeared as if they had just finished taking a shower because he had a towel wrapped around his waist and brushing teeth. I was 6 months pregnant at the time I couldn't control myself I had an anxiety attack and decided to call him and confront him over the phone which was the first mistake I did. Did I mention in the 4 years we had been together this was the first time I ever touched his phone.

    So I called him and asked he told me it was some girl he had dated briefly before me and that it was an old picture. He then rushed to come back at the house, what did make sense was that he didn't have that phone when we started dating and also that when we started dating he was much slimmer he was a body builder then and in that picture he was big and all toned up which meant the picture had been taken sometime this year or late last year.

    I felt really betrayed and broken considering that I was carrying his child we talked and I was stupid enough to agree to let go of the past and move forward since we were having a baby in just three months and customarily married.

    Now the problem is I am failing to let go for the past I find myself gathering facts and thinking about the picture and each time I do I feel the betrayal and hurt as if it happened yesterday though its been six months now. We are currently planning a wedding for August and have a beautiful baby.

    I'm not sure if I should break things off or just stay. The thing is I promised to let it go and that will never bring the past. After the photo incident I got curious and started going in his Facebook as well there were messages from him to one of his friend bragging of how he has 5 girls he was dating and that once a player always a player the messages were from last year. Should I believe that he has changed since that what he keep telling me

    Please help what should I do.
  • Dec 25, 2013, 01:17 PM
    talaniman
    I don't think this is the time to jump to conclusions, or make any life changing decisions. You can never forget the things you found or get to the bottom of it properly at this time o focus on having a health child and let the rest go for now. That's where moms and girlfrinds come in to give emotional and reassurances that you need.

    So got mom, sisters, female relatives, or friends to blow off too?

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