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  • Dec 8, 2013, 08:25 PM
    Jordonj
    My boyfriend gets upset too easily?
    We've been dating for over a month and he can get upset/mad so easily. He's also a very clingy and jealous guy. So in the past he has gotten mad at me for..
    -Thinking I liked another guy when I didn't.
    -He gets mad when I barely respond to his texts or calls (I'll be busy) then when I tell him my reason for not picking up he thinks I'm making up the excuses I give him.
    -And He always thinks something is wrong! It's really annoying. He thinks I'm not happy with him or anything. Everyday he thinks I don't want to talk to him. It's frustrating. I keep denying everything but he barely believes me. Need advice please?
  • Dec 8, 2013, 08:37 PM
    Wondergirl
    He sounds like a controlling person. It's time to move on, or he will take over your life.
  • Dec 8, 2013, 09:03 PM
    Alty
    Quote:
    We've been dating for over a month and he can get upset/mad so easily. He's also a very clingy and jealous guy. So in the past he has gotten mad at me for..
    -Thinking I liked another guy when I didn't.
    What made him think you liked another guy? Be honest with yourself. Did you give him a reason to think that?

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    -He gets mad when I barely respond to his texts or calls (I'll be busy) then when I tell him my reason for not picking up he thinks I'm making up the excuses I give him.
    I don't text, but from what I've seen it's very simple to respond with "I'm really busy right now, I'll get back to you soon". Why can't you do that? I didn't even use text talk and that took me less than 2 seconds to write.

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    -And He always thinks something is wrong! It's really annoying. He thinks I'm not happy with him or anything. Everyday he thinks I don't want to talk to him. It's frustrating. I keep denying everything but he barely believes me. Need advice please?
    He thinks you're not happy with him. Well, you're here complaining about him, and what he's doing, so obviously he's not completely off. You're obviously not happy with him,

    Time to sit down and be honest with each other. Tell him how he makes you feel, and listen when he tells you how you make him feel, then work on finding a middle ground so you can both be happy in this relationship. If you can't, than it's time to move on.
  • Dec 8, 2013, 09:07 PM
    talaniman
    These kind of issues after only a month will get worse, not better if you allow it, trust me. The real issue is how many chances will you give him before you really are tired of this crap?

    He is an insecure control freak. He has issues.
  • Dec 8, 2013, 09:10 PM
    Alty
    Quote:
    These kind of issues after only a month will get worse, not better if you allow it, trust me. The real issue is how many chances will you give him before you really are tired of this crap?

    He is an insecure control freak. He has issues.
    I tend to agree based on what the OP wrote, but based on all her other posts, I really think this guy deserves the benefit of the doubt. After all, we're only getting one side of the story here.
  • Dec 9, 2013, 06:26 AM
    Homegirl 50
    After only a month you don't seem happy and neither is he. Why are you still there?
  • Dec 9, 2013, 09:41 AM
    Jordonj
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    After only a month you don't seem happy and neither is he. Why are you still there?
    He said the arguing is going to stop completely and it has so I'm giving him one more chance to prove to me that things are going to be different.

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    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    These kind of issues after only a month will get worse, not better if you allow it, trust me. The real issue is how many chances will you give him before you really are tired of this crap?

    He is an insecure control freak. He has issues.
    I should probably mention this..
    He dated a girl for 3 years, she cheated on him then he dated a rebound girl, she also cheated on him and now he's with me. Now what are you thinking?
  • Dec 9, 2013, 10:03 AM
    talaniman
    Relationship dysfunction. He isn't healthy enough for a healthy relationship, if what you have written is correct. I only have your side of it and it sounds bad. I would make different choices, better ones. I sure wouldn't choose someone who does what you say he does.

    I hope he keeps his word. We'll see but its your choice.
  • Dec 9, 2013, 10:32 AM
    Homegirl 50
    There is too much drama here. This guy does not seem to be ready for a relationship. How long between you and the other girl?
    As young as this relationship is, I'd walk. I would not put up with jealousy and fits especially after only a month.
  • Dec 9, 2013, 11:42 AM
    Jordonj
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Relationship dysfunction. He isn't healthy enough for a healthy relationship, if what you have written is correct. I only have your side of it and it sounds bad. I would make different choices, better ones. I sure wouldn't choose someone who does what you say he does.

    I hope he keeps his word. We'll see but its your choice.
    Thank you. If nothing gets better then I will leave him. I'll keep you updated

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