Ask Me Help Desk - Do you think I can move in with my boyfriend who he is 24 and I am 18?

Do you think I can move in with my boyfriend who he is 24 and I am 18?

Well... I am dating my boyfriend on internet... he is 24 year old. He is really very nice guy and he know how I feel... he is funny, amazing, and many detail about him and I can't describe about him... I love him so much... I am planning to move in with him but I am 18 year old and I just start dating him on November 28, 2013 and I am really so happy with him... when I got his text message, he is making me so so happy... And I am planning to move in with him also I can go on online for school to finish high school while I live with him...

My family and friends don't know that I will move in with him... some of my friends know about that.. they are happy for me...

One question is... can I moving in with him while I am in high school student as 12th grade..

You met him a week ago online and want to move in with him?

You have no idea who or what he is. This is a terrible idea!

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I am dating my boyfriend on internet.

You met him a week ago. On the internet. You don't know if he is telling the truth. He could be a serial killer for all you know.

Have you ever met him in person? Moving in with someone you have only known a week is a terrible idea.

Well... I don't know what I should to say.. I have been looking for right guy but I think I want to live with him and start new life with him... I love him... he is not killer, rapist, cheater, and kidnapped... :/

Why is it terrible idea?

Have you met him in person? How long have you known him?

No I haven't meet him, I will meet him on Friday and I know him since like 3 days ago

Oh goodness. This is a terrible terrible idea. First of all, you don't even know that he is who he says who he is. He could be a 60 year old pervert for all you know.

You've only known him for 3 days. That's too short of a time to know if you love someone. Love takes time. In person and being together, not over the internet.

While you may think you are mature for your age, you are very niave if you think you are in love with a stranger you have only known for 3 days via the internet.

If you plan on meeting him, make sure you do it in a public place with plenty of people knowing where you are, when you plan to meet, and when you plan to return.

He is not 60 year old!! He is 24 year old and I mean I know him since my thanksgiving break... I am 18 year old and I can do anything that I want... I am not your mom... why can't you accept that I live with my boyfriend on Friday..

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I am not your mom

No, you are not my mom. My mom is 75 years old. However, I am old enough to BE your mom.

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why can't you accept that I live with my boyfriend on Friday..

I don't have to accept it. Your parents do. I can only warn you that you are being very naïve. You have never met this person in person. You only know what he tells you. That may not be the truth.

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I am 18 year old and I can do anything that I want

Yes, you are 18 and can do anything you want. But you need to make wise choices. This is not a wise choice. This is an impulsive decision.

The university you want to attend is for the deaf. Will you be able to communicate with him?

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The university you want to attend is for the deaf. Will you be able to communicate with him?

I think I missed something. I didn't see where she was deaf or going to university. What I saw was that she was concerned about finishing high school.

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I think I missed something. I didn't see where she was deaf or going to university. What I saw was that she was concerned about finishing high school.

Its in her profile.

Miagirl,

You came on here asking for advice. Yet you ignore all the advice you are being given. How do you know he is what he says he is? Because he told you over the Internet? Are you really that naïve?

Look, we aren't saying you aren't in love or that he isn't your soulmate. All we are saying is you have no known him long enough to move in with him.

Does he even live in the same school district so you can continue with your current school? You NEED to act more mature about this, not like a lovestruck child. PLEASE talk to your parents about this before you even meet him in person.

Finish your high school education first and take time to get the love struck out of your eyes and enjoy dating in person and taking time to really get to know if this is the right person for you as there is a HUGE difference with dating online for a week, and living with a person so quickly. It ain't all love and happiness forever like you think it is.

Especially with no job. Is this your first online relationship? Have you dated much in high school. Will your parents still support you if you move in with him? Do they even know of your plans? I can see you are thrilled by this fellow, but is your plan that well thought out?

You don't know this guy, you have no job, you haven't even finished high school.
I think you need to meet him, get to know him before you even consider moving in with him. This is a very foolish and immature thing to do.

Even for experienced adults (of which you are one, barely), online dating has perils, and dangers. Making a commitment to even go on a date, should take at least a few months, and even then, precautions must be taken. For example, meeting in a public place, during the day, and making sure people know where you are.

For you to have made such a drastic decision, shows you are not mature enough to realize that even chatting online is very dangerous. We read and hear all the time about young girls like yourself, lured into a false sense of security by the promise of a better life, or love, or other such nonsense.

Simply put, life does not happen online. Life happens face to face, after careful consideration, and that is only the beginning.

Why do you need to make this decision, and why do you need to make this decision now?

And if you are smarter than the rest of us, which you seem to think you are, what is the problem with telling your parents what you have planned? Why does this have to be kept a secret from them? Keeping secrets is something that online predators do, in order to get their prey.

Think about why he is wanting you to move in with him, knowing that you are leaving your family, and your school, and your friends. What kind of person would expect another person to give up their lives essentially, after dating, what- a week? Even a date is seriously a mistake in judgment, let alone move in with him??

You are really being childish in your thinking and actions, and in denying the truth that is right in front of you through posts already made. Being not very bright about men, relationships, major life changes, etc, makes you a very dim bulb as far as common sense goes.

How will you support yourself while taking this risk? What have you got as far as a plan goes, in case of an emergency. What on earth do you think this will do to your parents?

I'm having a hard time believing that your post is actually real, and not some made up silly story to impress your friends so you can all have a good laugh. That makes far more sense than thinking that you are serious.

I agree with Wondergirl, if you just met him, you shouldn't MOVE IN with him, you don't know WHAT could happen. If I were you, I wouldn't do it... maybe once you get OLDER. :)

Even though you are at the age of consent, I have serious doubts about a 24 year old man who would call himself an 18 year old high school students boyfriend, especially since you have only known each other a couple of weeks, on the internet and now he wants you to move in. This is a huge red flag and very problematic.

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Originally Posted by Miagirl187

Well... I don't know what I should to say.. I have been looking for right guy but I think I want to live with him and start new life with him... I love him... he is not killer, rapist, cheater, and kidnapped... :/

Why is it terrible idea?

How do you know? What proof do you have that he is who and what he says he is?

With the concern that you are being truthful with us, I have to ask what is so terrible about your family and home life that you have been looking for "the right guy" apparently to take you away from them and it. Why are you settling for this person?

Love can cause people to a lot of crazy and downright stupid things, but I have a feeling there is a lot more going on than you falling head-over-heels for an avatar and few well written posts. Why are you focused on running away from home?

Miagirl, I just posted on your thread, so we now know each other, right? I'm a nice person. I'm male, 19, very handsome, very rich. I'd like to get to know you better, I think it would be great. We should meet in person, we should fall in love. I'm not a rapist. I'm not a killer. I'm just a nice guy that wants to know you better. You could be the love of my life.

Can we make that happen?

Catch your breath, I'm actually a woman, I'm 43, I'm married, and I have two kids. But hey, it wasn't very hard to pretend to be someone else online. Not hard at all.

You only know what he told you, not the truth. It's very easy to lie online.