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Yes I'm back. I just don't get it. If I have custody of my son through the week and his dad has him only on the weekend how can he make arrangements for his his mother to take my son to a tutoring program that he does not need. He has arranged the days he is to go and told hismother to take him. He chose days that his mother picks him up so she will already have him. If he needed it I would still see what services the school had to offer first but I just don't see how it's OK for him to schedule for him from Ohio (I'm in Pittsburgh) he doesn't know my daily schedule for myself nor my children. If he wants to do it I feel it should be when he has him on the weekend but he doesn't have him every weekend by his choice. I don't schedule his weekends.

Hello! First, is there a reason that you don't want your son to have a tutor? The father can't really plan the time your son is with you but I do know that not all tutoring services are available on the weekends so if he is paying a tutor then it might only be possible during a certain time slot. Why is the grandmother picking the child up? That also makes a difference (or at least could help me understand your situation better to try to give helpful advice).

You sounded like you were going to be in agreement with your ex 3 weeks ago.
I'm always concerned when one parent calls a child 'my son' instead of 'our son.'
I hope you can see that the child's interests are what are paramount, not which parent has more power than the other.
If your ex's mother is willing to transport him to to tutoring (which you surely realize has to happen when it is offered, probably not on weekends) what is really bothering you?
And how is it that there is so much disagreement about his math level? How can a 5th grader be in the National Honor Society, which is in high school?

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Originally Posted by stinawords

Hello! First, is there a reason that you don't want your son to have a tutor? The father can't really plan the time your son is with you but I do know that not all tutoring services are available on the weekends so if he is paying a tutor then it might only be possible during a certain time slot. Why is the grandmother picking the child up? That also makes a difference (or at least could help me understand your situation better to try to give helpful advice).

Well my son who's in 5th grade got a C in math. His dad and I both thought tutoring would help so his dad had him assessed at a place called Mathnasium which is open on Saturdays and they said he was,at an 2nd grade level in math. That wa disturbing for the both of us! I question what the school had been doing all this time. In the mean time parent teacher meetings up d he teachers said "no way" he scored advanceds pssa the end of

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Originally Posted by joypulv

You sounded like you were going to be in agreement with your ex 3 weeks ago.
I'm always concerned when one parent calls a child 'my son' instead of 'our son.'
I hope you can see that the child's interests are what are paramount, not which parent has more power than the other.
If your ex's mother is willing to transport him to to tutoring (which you surely realize has to happen when it is offered, probably not on weekends) what is really bothering you?
And how is it that there is so much disagreement about his math level? How can a 5th grader be in the National Honor Society, which is in high school?

I beg to differ he is in The National Honor

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Originally Posted by africandancer

I beg to differ he is in The National Honor

To send him somewhere he doesn't really need to go and we really don't have the time to do it anywa

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Originally Posted by africandancer

To send him somewhere he doesn't really need to go and we really don't have the time to do it anywa

He is in The National Honor Society and the time he has to go does not fit in our schedule. Plus the school can give him what he needs right there. If it were true that he was at a second grade level I would move things around to make sure it fit but it doesn't fit and we are in contact with the school and they are already on the job.

A few more questions for you. 1. The end of what? 2. If he was only getting a C in Math why in the world are you fighting having a tutor during the week? Especially if he even went the extra mile and asked the child's grandmother to take care of transportation? I worked hard in school and went on to a good college and I even tutored math as one of my part time jobs while there, so I know what it takes. I know having kids is a hard job. My husband and I have four. I work with them on their homework every day. I didn't read your question from three weeks ago but I will probably go look it up now. However, just based on your two posts today I would honestly say that you need to get over the fact that tutoring is during the week.

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Originally Posted by africandancer

Well my son who's in 5th grade got a C in math. His dad and I both thought tutoring would help so his dad had him assessed at a place called Mathnasium which is open on Saturdays and they said he was,at an 2nd grade level in math. That wa disturbing for the both of us! I question what the school had been doing all this time. In the mean time parent teacher meetings up d he teachers said "no way" he scored advanceds pssa the enof

At the end of the school year and the school said he's in a 4/5th grade level and that since it's the beginning of the year that's normal. I just wanted to see what the school could do for him first because they have all kinds of teachers in place to help him. If he needed tutoring by all means I would go along with his dad but it doesn't fit the schedule I gave set for our family. If he really needed it I would make the needed adjustments but the school is on it. His grandma picks him up from school on certain days just to help out while we are at work. E

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Originally Posted by stinawords

A few more questions for you. 1. The end of what? 2. If he was only getting a C in Math why in the world are you fighting having a tutor during the week? Especially if he even went the extra mile and asked the child's grandmother to take care of transportation? I worked hard in school and went on to a good college and I even tutored math as one of my part time jobs while there, so I know what it takes. I know having kids is a hard job. My husband and I have four. I work with them on their homework every day. I didn't read your question from three Iweeks ago but I will probably go look it up now. However, just based on your two posts today I would honestly say that you need to get over the fact that tutoring is during the week.

Actually it's open on the weekend when he has him so he could take him then. He's getting tutoring in school and he is not at a second grade level. You don't have all the info so I can understand based on what you have heard why you feel that way.

I don't mean to be harsh, but if your ex gets him every other weekend, I would expect him to want to spend that short, valuable time together.

According to the NHS website, Junior membership doesn't begin until the second semester of 6th grade. Not wanting to argue, just wondering...

Has the father talked to the school so he too knows what they are doing to help? I went back to the older post so I could get caught up. I realize that cost is an issue so is this extra tutor something that you or the child's father is paying for? Or both? As for the time issue, if the grandmother is already picking him up that really still does sound convenient that she is also able to take him. I understand a C isn't failing but it only gets harder so all the extra help available is a huge benefit!

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Originally Posted by stinawords

Has the father talked to the school so he too knows what they are doing to help? I went back to the older post so I could get caught up. I realize that cost is an issue so is this extra tutor something that you or the child's father is paying for? Or both? As for the time issue, if the grandmother is already picking him up that really still does sound convenient that she is also able to take him. I understand a C isn't failing but it only gets harder so all the extra help available is a huge benefit!

We solved the issue thank you all for your advice and help.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

I don't mean to be harsh, but if your ex gets him every other weekend, I would expect him to want to spend thathort, valuable time together.
According to the NHS website, Junior membership doesn't begin until the second semester of 6th grade. Not wanting to argue, just wondering...

Honey its not an argument. We (myself, his dad and his 2 grandmother's talented his ceremony for the NHS he has a plaque. There are different levels sweetie. This conversation is finished though we solved the issue. Thanks for your help!

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Honey its not an argument. We (myself, his dad and his 2 grandmother's talented his ceremony for the NHS he has a plaque. There are different levels sweetie. This conversation is finished though we solved the issue. Thanks for your help!

It should have said attended his ceremony

Glad it all worked out for you!

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Glad it all worked out for you!

Thanks;)