Ok well I'm 19 years old and my girlfriend is 26... well we've been having problems because she is a stripper... at first when she wonted to do it I told her I had no problem with it... but as it progressed I didn't like it anymore now its causing problems... weve been together a year and a half I love her and her daughter... weve broking up off and on... but she don't won't to quit her job and I didn't ask her to,. but she knows I don't like it... she likes the money!. I was wanting to ask should I be worried about my girlfriend being a stripper... I also don't go on trips with her when she leaves to strip... but I don't think she would cheat on me... but I do worry sometimes...
She's been acting a little like she's got her own money now and when I borrow some later she throws it up in my face.
If she really loved me would she continie strippin(She worked at subway before hand)
Should I just end it because I worry about her every time she leaves to go strip... which she invites me I just can't go>.
Also she went to a ruguler Club without me lastnight... and she said it was just for a drink... which she loves to dance also...

People tell me what I should do... im stuck ina blind spot

You are in quite a pickle.
If you show up uninvited you may see a side of her you might not be able to forget. As far as "If she really loved you would she continue stripping" The question you might ask yourself, is "If you really love her can you make her choose?" Or "Could i love her if she wants to continue stripping?"
You need to tell her of the uncomfortableness, and ask her what she would like you to do. If she blows up in your face about it, it could be displacement of guilt or she could feel that you don't trust her. You must assure her that you just want what's best for the both of you.
You need to make the decision if you would stay with her if she wants to continue with this lifestyle.
If, when you tell her about your uncomfortableness, she calmly assures you that she wants you there for support, then once again you'll have to trust you heart.
Whatever you do bottom line is, don't try to make her quit to prove she loves you, you'll lose no matter how strong the love is.

You said that she was a stripper when you two were together. You said it was okay and would support her, but now your changing your mind. Of course, being a stripper or having a stripper as a girlfriend would be worrisome. She is selling her body. Image sells in today's world and it is a shame people get sucked in by the money. Does not matter what job you do though, good money will keep you there.

Is there anyway of sharing your concerns with her, without you telling her to quit, or without her getting mad a defensive. If you both react in a certain manner do you have enough communication skills to talk through things. It might be hurtfull, it might be hard but many times that is what is needed. A very strong good heart to heart.

I personally do not think you should get up and leave her because as far as you and I and others know she has not done anything wrong.

So I would start communicating.

Joe

well theres another thing...i have been lazy for a few months...u know just selling Dope which i prolly shouldet say over the internet and i lost my lisence which i can go gettem back anytime now....and she's telling me i need to str8ing up....get a Job and my lisence for us to be able to work out....is she doing this for my own good?or what and about the club thing she love's to dance and should i let her go to the ruguler club WITHOUT me....!!!!without worrying....i think i might be to jelious or hell should i have the right...she's a Beautifull gurl beautifull body she just love's to party a little more then i do....By the way...i.i mean hell should i let her go to the club without saying nething bout it...she is 26 and i am 19

I'm going to be gone all weekend I will get back on to see what you people have wrote so far... give me somemore good advice out there... alright you... talk to you later

Now I think your just playing games. Go play some where else.

Joe

If that's what she was doing when you met her, then its you who has the problem, and if you can't handle it, leave. How dare you come into someone's life, and try to change it because now you are uncomfortable.

Actually I would say the entire issue has almost nothing really to do with her being a stripper.

You have a couple things, first a very serious age difference, she is at a more mature level and it appears that you are not that mature for your age yet. ( nothing wrong with that 19 is still OK to be yound and enjoy life if you are living with mom or dad or if you are in college.

And the biggest issue is that she is making more money ( money issues is the number one issue that causes couples to split up) She is working hard to earn good money and she sees you living off her. And doing illegal activities on top of that. I am honestly surprised she has not kicked you to the curb already, I will guess she is keeping you basically because it works on her ego to have a young "hot" man around.
This is assumeing a lot,

So what do you want her to do if she stops stripping ? You are not up to the bat showing you are going to support her.
You want to be a man, be one, get a job, and show her you are trying to do what you can.

Instead of selling dope, but I highly doubt this is a true story anyway. Just somebody having a bit of fun. Whether I am right or not does not really matter. Either way, this person has to grow up and be a man.

Joe

I would say not to rock the boat about your girlfriend stripping - sooner or later she will stop stripping - a fact of nature and age progression. Not too many 50 yr old strippers out there. By that time, you might have grown up and actually got a job that earns you some decent money. By that time, she might own her own club and hire you as the bouncer. Ya never know what life holds.

I personally do not know what she sees in you. When I was 26, the last thing I needed was some 19 yr old punk at my heels.

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Originally Posted by GeorigaBlockRain

Ok well im 19 years old and my girlfriend is 26......well weve been having problems because she is a stripper....at first when she wonted to do it i told her i had no problem with it...but as it progressed i didnt like it anymore now its causing problems....weve been together a year and a half i love her and her daughter....weve broking up off and on....but she dont wont to quit her job and i didnt ask her to,....but she knows i dont like it...she likes the money!!!....i was wanting to ask should i be worried about my girlfriend being a stripper...i also dont go on trips with her when she leaves to strip...but i dont think she would cheat on me...but i do worry somtimes....
She's been acting a little like she's got her own money now and when i borrow some later she throws it up in my face.
If she really loved me would she continie strippin(She worked at subway b4 hand)
Should i just end it because i worry about her everytime she leaves to go strip....which she invites me i just can't go>.
Also she went to a ruguler Club without me lastnight...and she said it was just for a drink......which she loves to dance also...

people tell me what i should do...im stuck ina blind spot

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My brother-in-law met most of his girlfriends at strip clubs. It seems as though it is not a good situation. Clearly you do not have anything that is private regarding her body. I would bail. It is not going to lead to good. If she does love you, then after you leave she will call.

You really need to grow up you do not deserve your girlfriend !

lol hey good advice out there and sum ed up ones... well I just got back from augusta to read all of it... and jesus man I'm not bulling... and the age differnce never been a problem... its only been brought up once or twice... but I already bailed... matter of fact I'm talking to another lady right now... not trying to move to fast since I just got out this relashinship... but hell everythings going to be all right... by the way I just landed a job making 13 an hour... which is good for me... and were probably going to be moving way out of town... and my ex----calls me everyday... but I'm ignoring her... even though I do love the girl... I just can't go on knowing that this will happing again to the both of us... anyways I liked some of yalls advice and the others that think I'm playing I don't get on the internet much and ask for advice... so when I do I'm not bullIN... holla back pals

Lol jesus I didn't say I have aNother girlfriend... and yeah Im doing punch out work... and by drugdealer I was selling painpills Not crack Not coke not even no in weed... and I miss homegirl I really do... matter of fact we don't talk at all... she went off the deep end I think because she hasent called her daughter or no body in around a week... dude ever since all this happen... I just hope she's OK... Dont really matter what she's doing I'm just hoping she's Ok!. Me on the other hand I'm str8 I'm fine... u know like I said feelings don't change overnight but I feel like I'm getting over it more quick then I thought I would... ne-ways I'm out... later end of conversation!! :eek: