Should I respond or ignore this email?
I ended it and never contacted her for 5 years. I recently drummed up enough courage to contact her to see if we could be civil. I was best man at my brothers wedding and seeing that she would probably be there I thought I'd offer the olive branch. She's still friends with my sister and I know how important weddings are for girls. Anyway, her email response was cold and sterile, not the type of response you'd expect from someone who was neither hot nor cold about me leaving her. I'm naturally intuitive and could see the bitterness in her response. Plus she was hostile to my other siblings at a birthday party 2 years ago for no reason. I don't like confrontation and so my brother decided that she would not be invited to his wedding. My sister already told all her friends about my brothers wedding, including my ex. When my brother told her not to invite my ex, none of her other friends decided to go. I felt bad for my sister. Some girls are weird? Anyway, the wedding was great and I had my pick of many ladies being the best man etc. After this I had no reason to contact my ex again and no desire either. Anyway a year after the wedding my ex sent me this email:
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Dear xxxxxx.
It has been a long time since we have last made contact; so I know you're probably wondering why I am contacting you. This is not a social email, responding is not needed, more of something I need to do in order to finally relieve myself of certain emotional baggage I have been carrying for some time.
I want to let you know that, the way you treated me when we were going out was very mentally destructive. I realised a long time ago, that this treatment /behavior had nothing to do with me; but more of a trait within you, that you needed to or maybe still need to address yourself. Through the time we were 'together'; you decided to make me feel negatively about myself, you affected myself esteem and confidence. Through your decisions and actions, instead of empowering me, Valuing me, and supporting me you choose to do the opposite.
You had no right to do those things to me or any other living human being, it is not your purpose in life. At the time I did not understand why you treated me this way. I was young, I blamed myself and you took advantage of what you thought was my inexperience.
In the time we have not spoken I have been on a continuous Journey of empowerment and growth. I am blessed. I walked away from our situation with a Pure heart and good intentions. I am not angry with you. I harbor no resentment to you. I wish you all the best and success with future plans.
Take care of yourself.
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5 years is a long time, I mean I'd forgotten how to spell my ex's name and it's only 3 letters. This scared the hell out of me and confirmed my intuition. I treated her with respect during our relationship, probably more so because she was a friend of my sister. There are no examples of her allegations because nothing happened between us. I was with her for like several weeks. My only crime is I decided to leave because she was too clingy and had too much baggage. Why couldn't we be civil for my sister's sake? Plus she's always telling me about things that she has done although I have no interest in her life. Also, she keeps asking me about my life etc? Very strange, I don't think she'll stop if see saw me crossing the road lmao. Should I respond or ignore this crazy email? In any case I should warn my sister about her nut job friend.
